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So, is there anything GOOD about being a military wife?

Posted by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:47 PM
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Hubby-to-be wants to join the Army.  I support him.  But all I'm seeing online when I try to look up the life is drama, low-pay, crap treatment, subpar benefts, overlong deployments, and a lifetime on PA.

Is that it?  Is that really all I can look forward to as an Army wife?  We're dealing with all that crapola now, sans  the drama!  I fully support our troops and want DF to do what he's wanted to do for a long time, but we've got a family to think about.

PLEASE, someone tell me there is something good about being an Army wife!

ETA: Should have mentioned it, I was aware of the low-pay to start.  We weren't looking at making bank that way :)

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:47 PM
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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:50 PM

Deployments are really slowing down, at least from what I've seen with those I know. Pay is not very good to begin but it does get better with time. You get to move and experience new things which is fun. The healthcare is great to have yeah you have to pay but it barely costs anything. Plus you get to be amazingly proud of your man.

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:52 PM

hugs   Thank you

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:55 PM

 Well, my hubby is USAF and we LOVE the life!

We have a 4 bedroom house, we live on base and my son's school is within walking distance. I went through cancer and my medical bills amounted to around 1million total. We didn't pay ONE CENT.

My husband gets more time off than he has in any of his civilian jobs. Whenever I have a surgery, he just tells his work and he gets time off with pay.

He took a month off each time our children were born. Again, WITH PAY. What civilian job will allow you to do that unless you lived in France or England?

I love that my DH is military. We get more than most. Right now he's an E5 and we get $2828 per month (base pay)



by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:55 PM

Well for one..I'm married to the love of my life. =) The other benefits to me are getting to experience new places and new cultures that otherwise I doubt I would have. My husband has a stable job and income in this economy which is very important. We have a roof over our heads, food in our bellies and all the essentials we need. Sure theres downsides, but then again theres downsides to any career. My husbands not Army though..hes Marine....but those are my opinions. =)

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 2:57 PM

it all depends. u move arounda  lot and that can suck but if u move some place u hate then u know u arent there for long. some deploy a lot some dont. dh is undeployable for 7 years (at least). before he got that he was deployed 27 out of 41 months. dependin on the rank, yes some make crap pay and some make great pay. i stay at home because of his pay. the healthcare isnt bad (i refuse to go to army hospitals and u just have to look around for a good dr, some drs on the tricare list are verrry bad, some are awesome).

basically, when it all comes down to it, ur kids/family will not come before the army. so its how u want ur kids raised that should really determine if a parent should join.

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 3:04 PM

 My husband has been in for 3 years. Yes pay is pretty low when you first join but with a little time it gets better.  I believe deployments are down to every 2-4 years. But I have met multiple people who have never deployed. One guy I know has been in for 10 years and never left the states. The insurance is great! Its aprx. $5.00 a month per dependant. The housing on post is pretty nice! The grocery store on post is CHEAP! I just spent $100 and got enough for thanksgiving and 2 weeks! Then the military family you gain is great you move often but everone is in your boat so you meet new friends all the time, who understand you, and are there for you when you really need support! The drama is only with some people. My whole lil army family is not about drama at all!!  It has alot of ups and alot of downs But what job doesn't? Also...Its a very honorable job. What other normal person can say I help defend my country and everyone in it! Just a thought!

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 3:08 PM

I don't have any complaints.....I love my life :)

We purchased our first home together in April, my nursing school is now paid for (minus the book stipend) through the Post 9-11 GI Bill which cuts out any future student loans for me.  I have some of the best specialists in the country keeping up with a genetic disease I have.  We haven't ever been on PA.  Sometimes the work hours are not fun, and the 1st deployment was a learning experience and a challenge.  He is stateside for the next 2 years (he is on recruiting duty).

I don't have any drama, I live near Dover Air Force Base and have met some awesome Air Force wives that are very good friends now.  I love shopping in the foreign foods section of the commissary....I love walking into the fitness center and getting a full workout in without a monthly gym membership fee.  

I have seen and experienced things I never would have if I wasn't an "Army Wife", travelled the country and hopefully Europe in the next couple of years.

Everything has it's ups and downs, but your life will be what you make of it (at least that's what I tell myself)

Every PCS has an adjustment period to it, and every military wife is an expert at change, and how to make it work, and not work you over.

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 3:10 PM

I'm not in the military, nor is my husband or any immidiate family so I don't know the life style- but I would think you'd be able to take great pride in knowing that your hubby will be able to fight to help keep this country safe. =)



by Ruby Member on Nov. 12, 2009 at 3:12 PM

Quoting Turb0Happy:

Hubby-to-be wants to join the Army.  I support him.  But all I'm seeing online when I try to look up the life is drama, low-pay, crap treatment, subpar benefts, overlong deployments, and a lifetime on PA.

?? We are not on PA, nor were we when my husband was a lowly E2, and we had a 2 year old and a newborn. It's all about how you manage your money. Of course you can't afford two car payments, a large house, and to go out and eat steak and shrimp every night.... 

Live within your means, and stay away from the people who are involved in the drama (and they make themselves very obvious).and you'll be fine.

He works, sometimes long crappy hours, and comes home.  Honestly, it's really not much different than any other "lifestyle" there is, the only exception being deployments, then its sort of like a being a "single mom who gets great child support."

It's amazing how people don't hold themselves to the standards they set for others.

by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 3:13 PM

I can't say anything as far as Army goes, DH is Navy. I love our life. We bought our own home and we have never been on PA with a 4yo and 1yo. His command is very family oriented and he can drop everything (unless deployed) at the drop of a hat should one of our kids get sick. It's a tough life. The deployments tend to be a little on the ridiculous side as far as length goes but it is what it is. I have never been wrapped up in any drama where the Navy is concerned. Hubby's friends and their families are all amazing and incredibly supportive. Get in good with the ombudsman at the command to keep up to date on anything that may be coming down as well as the MWR. There's good and bad to everything in life. If it's what he wants to do and you can support him in that, good luck. Remember that rank makes a difference in pay so if he has any college education, he'll start a little higher in rank and won't be bottom of the barrel. Good luck in making your decision!

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