Kinda long.......anyone been in this situation how did u tell that person they had to go without sounding like a B!!!!?

[funmommy123]

Okay LONG story short: Dh uncle has been staying with us for over a year now, and we have not asked him for anything, becuz he gets an unemployment check and he said he was trying to save that up so he can move back home with his mom, in the meantime he was gonna try to find a job here and see if he can get his own place. Over a yr and no one has hired him. He's not planning on moving back home anytime soon and I'm starting to feel takin' advantage of. Altogether he's given us 480 bucks (we didn't ask for it but did take it when we were in need of it). Now though it seems like he doens't care when we are struggling with bills he just sits there like he doens't know anything and he goes to the casino and wat not. when he first moved in he said he was only going to stay a few months. I have to do his dishes cuz If I don't do it it doesn't get done. I"ve left his cup sitting on the counter before for days to see if he will wash it and guess wat he didn't. It irritates me when I wash up all the dishes then he eats or something and just throw it in there. He knows that it irritates me but still does it.  He even corrects me with everything, example: I tell my son to hide his private parts with his hand when he takes off in clothes and dh uncle said "no not hide, cover it" WTF! was that big of a deal? My son asked me what his nipples were so I said it's your nipples  and his unc said no boys don't have nipples its just a chest? Tonight, my 6yr old son and him got into an argument over wat channel to watch and my son said "why are you staying with us for so long, when are you gonna go home?" and dh uncle started yelling "As god is my witness I don't wanna be here but I don't have a choice, as god is my witness!" I wanted to say so bad you do have a choice to go back home to your moms (where he was before) but he chooses to not. By now he would've had more then enough money to go back home. I just needed to VENT  This may seem like nothing but I can seriously write a whole book about everythig else he says and does. After a while it gets irritating from holding my tongue for so long.

[blondieblue2]

h, we went through it with my grown son and his gf. We finally set a date and they were out even though she went back to her parents and he went to a friends. You've given him plenty of time, now get him moving!

[ormom1977]

He probably doesn't want to go back to mom's house because mom "nags" at him to actually try to get it together. Sounds like you guys may be catering too much to him and because he has everything taken care of, there isn't very much motivation for him to do for himself. I am sure when he senses you guys are doubting his efforts he makes the appearance he is trying to find a job but I think you actually need to sit down with him and give him an actual date to be out of the house. Tough love does wonders!!