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Is there a secret to a long, happy marriage?
I've never been married. I know that a marriage CAN last, but right now it just seems like almost everyone I know is getting divorced. My parents have been married for almost 22 years, and my grandparents have been married for 52 years. So those are a couple of good, strong marriages that I have as examples. But my best friend got married in July, and her husband left her TWO DAYS after their wedding. He thought that the marriage wasn't legal, now that he knows that their marriage IS legal, he's changed his mind. They're now trying to work on their marriage. Now I'm terrified to get married one day. What if something like that happens to me?? I just found out that three of my old friends' parents are getting divorced. Each couple had been married for 20+ years. What goes wrong after 20 years? This all has me scared to get married.
So my question is for all of you that are married, how do you make your marriage last? Is there a secret to a long, happy marriage? For those of you that have been divorced, what happened? Why didn't it work?
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:42 AM
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Communication, honesty, loyalty and try not fighting over petty things and another thing I have learned is that nagging pushes men away, but do it for sure when necessary...hehehe.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:42 AM
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lots and lots of compromise AND the willingness to compromise.
Trust, totaly comfort and humour. (in my case anyway)
Momma to Avalon Grier. <3
Hopeless living, loving and laughing.
We are your typical hard working, punk rock listening,
vergetarian eating, rule breaking, world loving,
art creating, ever changing, always loving family.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:43 AM
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Respect.
It ALL boils down to respect.
It's amazing how people don't hold themselves to the standards they set for others.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:44 AM
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Love ,trust, communication, companionship. Those are main things a marriage needs to work imo.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:46 AM
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Besides what other ladies have added, I think becoming best friends. Trust, honesty, love, communication, understanding, and compromise.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:47 AM
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I agree.
Quoting wickedfiress:
Respect.
It ALL boils down to respect.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:47 AM
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Take some time to get to know each other before you get married. Communication. Compromise. Trust. Honesty. Ignoring the little things. Working on it, always. Don't forget to love, each day. Kisses and HUGS.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:54 AM
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Me and hubby have been married 4 1/2 years i think what kept us going is love and always working on our marriage we have agreed that we got married for a reason and divorce is something we won't do. I think alot of people take the easy way out when times get tough.
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- by on Nov. 21, 2009 at 12:58 AM
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I'm only married for 10 yrs, but we've been together for 20 yrs. All I can say as for our relationship is communication is a HUGE factor! You need to be able to talk about anything with each other. Trust, if you dont have trust, then I'm sorry, you dont have much of a marriage in my opinion. You have to be able to say your sorry sometimes, even if it isnt your fault.
