Tomorrow is my sons birthday party. I was talking to my mom about his gifts. Well this year I wont be able to do anything since s/o and I split up and I was left w/ nothing. Well, my mom always does extravagant b-days & Christmas' for him. But she tells me that a girl she works w/ (who loves my son dearly) bought him a psp and quite a few other things.... Well when all the talk about Christmas and birthday started I told my mom no hand held video games for ds bc we literally fight to get him off the wii. I'm sooooo not happy about this psp.
On top of everything else he hasn't been behaving in school, he hasn't been minding, he's been hell on wheels for the past month or so... I honestly don't think he deserves it...
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Quoting avegajenkins:
honestly its up 2 u and only u know if he deserves it ..
age has nothing 2 do w. it ...
He does not deserve it. I do think age has a little to do w/ it. He's not responsible enough to take care of it. I can just imagine my 17 month old picking it up off the floor and smashing it into the wall or whatever, throwing it in the trash... kwim?
maybe you could use is as incentive.. as a reward for good behavior.. let him have it.. but the minute he steps out of line or doesn't listen.. take it away...
it could be a very good thing.. it seems like he's acting out because of the split imo
Quoting Just_Me_1326:
maybe you could use is as incentive.. as a reward for good behavior.. let him have it.. but the minute he steps out of line or doesn't listen.. take it away...
it could be a very good thing.. it seems like he's acting out because of the split imo
HA good behavior?!?! Whats that?! lol Everyday is a battle. I guess it could work out to my advantage on homework... maybe?????
maybe use it as a reward, you know if he has a good day or does something with out you nagging him (that is how it is with my 7yo DD) then let him play it for 30 min. to 1 hour. make it something that he cant just have at any time but he has to earn the time to play it. I do this with my DD and our Wii, I keep track of the time she has earned and on Saturday she can play for the allotted time she earned.
I am with you I do beleave that age has everything to do with it. My DD wants a DS and I feel she is just to young at age 7.
I agree with the others, make some rules about it and then it's gone until he turns around. There are things in time out all time time around here, but the time outs for things are getting less and less. When he gets it, tell him that he gets time with it after homework!
My son just turned 7 and he plays his dad's PSP. Each kid has a DS (age 7 and 10) or gameboy (age 4). They have to ask to play with them. They get them taken away for mistreating them (leaving them on the floor) and when they decide to not listen. We don't always take away the DS, sometimes it is TV or computer or the toy of the day. They love to take them in the car for "road trips", even if it is just 5 or 10 minutes and the games must stay in the car.
My opinion... if this lady already bought it, let him have it. You can choose when he gets to play (and it is easily put up unlike the Wii) and when he doesn't.
DH recently got our 4 year old a PSP, and he's is completely obsessed with it. He also plays xbox360. We set a timer for him and he gets so much allotted time. We also have a chore chart that has the allotted minutes based on how hard that task is (ex. pick up all the toys and putting them away = 10 minutes). I think games should be a privilege and children should learn how to earn their time to play. Just because he doesn't deserve it now because of passed mistakes doesn't mean you should miss this opportunity to start constructive things now.
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