So I just found out i have diabetes and here is the red flag that made me get checked. My dad has diabetes and we always relized that when his sugar was high he got easily irrated and mean. Well lately for about a little under a month I have been get easily irritated and mad at my DH. Normally im easy mannered and nice. So one night i decided to randomly check my sugar and it was over 300, way above normal. Well now i have been watching it and keeping it under control. i havent got meds from the doc yet, i go the 1st of dec. Well i hurt my DH some with my anger and now im trying to make things better. He says he forgives me and will help me keep my sugar down. I know that my sugar being high was no excuse what soever, plus it was not the only thing makeing we that way it was just one of the main things.
Even though he forgave me it seems like he still seems hurt. What can i do to make it better?
He has next tuesday and wednesday off so i may plan a date night, if i can get my mom and dad to watch the baby.
I think a date night is a great idea! I've had post-pardum depession with my first son and with my second son (who was just born in May). I'm on medication now for it, but I still get easily frustrated mostly with my hubby and bite his head off for the littlest things. We have been trying to have date night at least once a month. I get my mother in law to babysit and even if it's just sharing a desert and going for a walk or doing to dinner, or going to a movie. Something to so we can have time just for us. It has helped us A LOT. We were together only a few months when I got pregnant with our first son, so we didn't really have a lot of time before it wasn't just him and I anymore, so it is nice when we get time alone. I hope you get your date night, and it sounds like he is wanting to help you and men truely do want to "fix" things when they feel you want/need help. So let him help you and I'm sure you'll do wonderful. Add me as a friend if you want to talk some more. Take care! Have a fun date night!
Mom said she would watch the baby. So im thinking dinner and movie. Thanks momma for the reply.
Quoting alaskan_brea:
I think a date night is a great idea! I've had post-pardum depession with my first son and with my second son (who was just born in May). I'm on medication now for it, but I still get easily frustrated mostly with my hubby and bite his head off for the littlest things. We have been trying to have date night at least once a month. I get my mother in law to babysit and even if it's just sharing a desert and going for a walk or doing to dinner, or going to a movie. Something to so we can have time just for us. It has helped us A LOT. We were together only a few months when I got pregnant with our first son, so we didn't really have a lot of time before it wasn't just him and I anymore, so it is nice when we get time alone. I hope you get your date night, and it sounds like he is wanting to help you and men truely do want to "fix" things when they feel you want/need help. So let him help you and I'm sure you'll do wonderful. Add me as a friend if you want to talk some more. Take care! Have a fun date night!
Ah diabetes is fun... not. I have Type 1 and it reaks havock on your moods if you're not cautious. However, please keep something in mind that perhaps your DH should be a bit more understanding of, and that it's not your fault.... you didn't know. Even with medication and being cautious diabetes is the one of the worst chronic diseases to control. I don't feel it's fair that you have to apologize for your mood when in truth it's part of the collective package and he should know & respect that. The most that should have HAD to occur was a good laugh from it... it's much more healing than feeling guilty over something we can't control. GL!
It wasnt particulary the mood im apologzing for, it is what was said during that mood. I said something that really hurt DH. Something he forgave me for almost a yr ago and something i should stop bringing up. Thanks momma. At least i know im not the only one. DH doesnt laugh about much anymore.
Quoting AlexisPaigesMom:
Ah diabetes is fun... not. I have Type 1 and it reaks havock on your moods if you're not cautious. However, please keep something in mind that perhaps your DH should be a bit more understanding of, and that it's not your fault.... you didn't know. Even with medication and being cautious diabetes is the one of the worst chronic diseases to control. I don't feel it's fair that you have to apologize for your mood when in truth it's part of the collective package and he should know & respect that. The most that should have HAD to occur was a good laugh from it... it's much more healing than feeling guilty over something we can't control. GL!
It really drives me crazy on CM how, if it isn't drama related there are very little to no responses.
First, I'm glad you have been able to control your sugars. That is wonderful! I have a really, really bad temper and when I'm mad I say some of the most horrible, awful things that I don't mean but they just come out you know? So, there have been MANY, MANY times I have hurt DH's feelings really bad like you.
Can you maybe arrange for someone to watch the kids so you guys can go get dinner and a movie? Or if he doesn't want to go out cook him a special dinner or order take-out and watch a movie at home? Do something or go somewhere that really likes.
I hope this helps. ***HUGS***
I wanted to first of all share that I am Type II diabetic and am on insulin and medicine. While I was teaching school I was a wreck and finally decided to resign. Best decision I ever made....because now I am a SAHM to my 16 year old Down Syndrome child and I need to be sane to handle her sometimes. I have to exercise control in eating AND exercise to keep things in balance....
You mentioned that DH is not happy much anymore-something like that. I believe getting out to yourselves once in a while-just taking the time to communicate what's on your mind and showing him you care about how he feels.
Just to share: daily living gets a man down-all the responsibilities, people to answer to-new changes.....I found it works to have a sense of humor with my guy and bring back the memories of what brought us together and to keep things light. Mine was losing his zest for life -it wasn't easy, but I prayed a lot for our relationship and just loved him and tried to keep my mood optimistic and not succumb to gloominess,
Long story-but we were having problems with our Down Syndrome daughter-she's 16 and is very clever at manipulation and not behaving very well-I decided to do something about it (I used to be a teacher) and take more active interest in everything-this caused a great deal of tension in the household but now things are 100% better!!!!
I hope this has been of help- I'll be thinking of you!!!!!
Thanks mommas. I talked to my mom and she is going to watch the baby. So tuesday im going to surprise him with dinner and a movie. DH is under a lot of stress and i wish i could make it better, but he rarely ever talks to me about things. Like if he is acting depressed or something i have to beg him to talk to me. All he wants to do is wait for baby to nap and go to sleep. He is sexual torwards me anymore, unless i make the first move. We were only together 1 month when i got preg and 2 months when we got married and lots of things have happened since. Thanks mommas for the support and advice.
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