I have two children ages 4 and 15 months, my sister has a baby who is 5 months. It seems to me that my parents are too "busy" with the 5 month old to pay very much attention to my babies. My sister lives with them, doesnt work but is going to school, my parents are always taking care of her baby. I dont think Im better then her but I'm sick of my 4 yr old crying to spend time with my parents but they dont have time for him. My 4 yr old used to be their "baby" and they would spend every day with him that they could, My DH and I lived with them til our oldest was 2 (its a long story as to why we did that) after I had my second baby things started to change we now have our own place and are doing good and my "baby" had to grow up and learn to be a brother which has took some time but hes doing fine with that. Now that the other grandson is here the parents barely spend 30 mins with my kids and if they do then their youngest grandchild is with them. I dont understand why they wont let his mother take care of him while they spend some time with my kids, oh wait is it because his mother is too busy sleeping all day and drinking all night? yep it is but my kids derserve grandparents too dont they? Im just hurt by this......
I am so sorry you have to go through this. But try to be in their shoes. They have a grown up woman living in their house, They are taking care of her child night and day. I mean, their getting older now, and they didnt plan on raising any more babies but it sounds like they are having to right now, they may just be to worn out to be honest. I know my mom is. My older sister is living with her right now and while my sister does what ever my mom has to watch her kid. By the time she gets anytime by her self, which is only (Maybe ) TO go take a crap, here come the kid again.
I would talk to them and let them know how you feel but also let them know you understand their position
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maybe they assumed the role as parents of the child in a way? since your sis has them watching him all the time? theres no real excuse as to why. thats mean and they should realize that they arent only hurting their grandchildrens feelings but theyre hurting yours also.
i would try to find a way to bring it up.
My mother is the same way with her grandchildren. She has 3 my son is the oldest my sister has a son who is 3 months younger and my brother has a son who is 3 months. She has seen my son twice and he was no older then 2 weeks both times..He is 1 year now. My sister and brother both live with her and she is a constant in their lives, but did not even call or even offer to see my son on his first birthday.I hate it, it hurts like hell, but it's her loss. I'm sorry your going through this, Try to talk to your mom about the boys missing her.
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My mom is the same way with my sisters two oldest kids. My kids are stand in when she and my sister are fighting. My kids are aged 9,6, and 2 and the older ones see it for what it's worth and they don't even care anymore. I have just cut her out my life all together(lot of other reasons). Unfortunately your kids will get hurt but eventually they will stop caring or wanting after being let down too many times.
Quoting gabe11-14:
My mother is the same way with her grandchildren. She has 3 my son is the oldest my sister has a son who is 3 months younger and my brother has a son who is 3 months. She has seen my son twice and he was no older then 2 weeks both times..He is 1 year now. My sister and brother both live with her and she is a constant in their lives, but did not even call or even offer to see my son on his first birthday.I hate it, it hurts like hell, but it's her loss. I'm sorry your going through this, Try to talk to your mom about the boys missing her.
You have a cute baby, it just sucks cause my MIL is like this also she missed my oldest 1st and 2nd birthdays and was an hour late to his 4th birthday, they hardly ever see her cause I got tired of them getting hurt over her not waiting them around I just hate to take them away from another set of grandparents but I guess the kids will see it how it is one day :(
Sorry your hurt , Can you talk with your parents about it? Maybe ask them over for dinner or something , meet at the park ? IDK but maybe they are having problems with your sister and they just feel they have to watch the baby?
So just cause my sister is a lazy a** who doesnt want to take care of her own baby, its ok that my children get ingorned? I dont think so, I have tried to talk to the parents and they say "well if we dont take care of the baby then no one will". That may be true but they donbt have to ingore the grandbabies that used to be everything to them just cause" their prince " has been born. Oh well I guess my babies dont have any grand parents that give a damn about them.
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on Nov. 21, 2009 at 5:52 PM