My son is 2.5 and I was wondering what is a good bed time for him? I had him on a schedule when he was younger while DH and I split for like a month. He got up at 6am and went to bed at 7:30. When DH and got back together he said it was not fair that he went to work before he woke up and came home and he was sleep. So I started letting him stay up later and DH would put him to bed. Well last night I woke up at 11pm and my child was still up!! I think that is WAY too late for him to be up but DH sees no problem with it since he's not in school or daycare so he has no where to be. I don't know for sure but don't kids need like 12 hours of sleep or at least 8? Am I over reacting. I want my son to see his father. He loves his daddy and asks for him all day but I think he needs to be in the bed at least by 9 but DH Doesn't get off until 8, sometimes later. Do I put him to bed and miss his dad or let him stay up?
Little kids do need about 12 hours of sleep. I have three under 6 years old. They are all in bed by 8 PM and they are all usually up around 8 AM. If they don't get enough sleep, they get very cranky, and life is hard for everyone. Plus they are more likely to catch colds and flu.
It is tough for you though, because it is nice for him to spend time with his dad, but 11 PM is way too late for a little kid. Also, discipline is so much easier for you if you are very strict with bed time. Then they know you are the boss. It will become a bigger issue as he gets older. Can your DH come home an hour earlier so the baby can be in bed by 8 or 9?
No he can't he's the only one working right now so he needs to make all the hours he can.
Quoting kristinelovesu:
Little kids do need about 12 hours of sleep. I have three under 6 years old. They are all in bed by 8 PM and they are all usually up around 8 AM. If they don't get enough sleep, they get very cranky, and life is hard for everyone. Plus they are more likely to catch colds and flu.
It is tough for you though, because it is nice for him to spend time with his dad, but 11 PM is way too late for a little kid. Also, discipline is so much easier for you if you are very strict with bed time. Then they know you are the boss. It will become a bigger issue as he gets older. Can your DH come home an hour earlier so the baby can be in bed by 8 or 9?
My younngest is 3 and she goes to bed every night at 7pm and wakes up at 7:30-8am every morning and has since she was born. From my experience it is best to get a child on a schedule while they are young because the older the get the harder it becomes!! My sis and a friend of mine both thought since their children were not in school they did not need a bed time well they got a big surprise when their children turned 5 and was about to go to Kindergarden and they had a hard time getting them to go to bed at a decent time.
I understand your DH wants to see his son more but tell him that is what weekends will be for plenty of daddy and son time!!
While hubby was deployed for a year and I lived with my sister and her SO (I stayed home for a year while he was deployed but otherwise have always been working), DD stayed up till 10 or sometimes 11 oclock but then she didn't get up until 9-11am. Sis and her SO worked later shifts and this way DD could spend some time with her Aunt and Uncle. DD goes to bed much earlier now because she has to get up early for daycare.
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on Nov. 21, 2009 at 8:29 PM