12 y/o wants a new name.. thanks.. update

[4thLuvofChildrn]

ok, my DH and I are adopting a 12 year old little girl. She wants her name changed, her middle name is Nichole.

what do you think of her wanting a new name??

Do you have any name idea?

Thank you

BTW she doesn't know what she wants to change it to, she just doesn't want 1st name any more. She asked me what name I like.

 I posted more on page 3..

Today I kept wanting to call her Gabrielle and its s fit now. What do you think of Gabrielle Nicole Dreamer if she wants to keep Nicole for sure. If not, we may go with Gabrielle Faith Dreamer, a name she likes a name we have always wanted to name our daughter if we have one and of course our last name.

Thank you for all the comments,

Katina Loyce Dreamer

Christian Wilson Dreamer

Maybe, Gabrielle Nichole Dreamer 

or  

Gabrielle Faith Dreamer? still thinking =)

[KT9105]

My favorite girl name is Lindsey.  I can see her wanting to change her name.  New family, new name, ya know?  It's like a total fresh start, new name and all.

[iamcafemom83]

i dont see anything wrong with it...what does she want it changed to? u and your spouse should maybe have a say in it....JMO!!

[babyboomboom]

I think she might want a new name to make her feel more like a part of the family.  I think it's fine.

[futureshock]

I think it's a beautiful idea.  She wants her parents to name her, which is something parents normally do, right?  Maybe keep her current name as her middle name if she wants.

[Bennett121]

 Wow, that is a tough one. If she sees a counselor I would talk with the counselor to see if a name change would be apropriate. That might be just what she needs for a fresh start, or it may be too much change and could cause problems.

Congratulations on the adoption though!

[i.heart.rachel]

I think a new name is a great idea for a new life. Just nothing too crazy.

[godsgirl26]

Quoting iamcafemom83:

i dont see anything wrong with it...what does she want it changed to? u and your spouse should maybe have a say in it....JMO!!

[hisbabybat]

 I can definitely see her wanting to have a new name...new life, new name, new start. kind of a reinvention you know?

I don't have any girls yet, so I have more boys names than girls...but I like;

Autumn, Riley, Drea, Sierra...

congrats on your new addition :)

[Forget-me-not]

A name change can be a huge act of letting go of the past and embracing a new future, she may have had such a terrible childhood that carrying the name her parents gave her may be a burden she is does not want anymore. I would possible make it fun.. Tell her your father and I named all our children and you are our child too. Go from there with discussions about names and I would personally include the name of a new relative. If she is close to your mother or your MIL than perhaps bestow that honor to her of being named after her grandma. 

[dolismommy]

 I agree with someone above me, I think if you change her name her current first name should be included some how maybe as a possible middle name. It is a new life and I am hoping everyone is happy about it and its a great thing. But I think by not having her current name included it sends the message that that life is done, gone! This could be your way of explaining that everyone has a past, but its the future that really matters. Our past just helps to make us who we are and will be in the future. Best of luck and congrats on your new addition