my boyfriend's dad gave me an adoption speech today.

[mommy2alexi]

so i needed to stop by my boyfriend's parent's house real quick this afternoon. i was assuming both his parents would be home, and i had wanted to talk to his mom while i was there. [we just told them on wednesday that we're expecting and i didn't get much chance to talk to her then as i was really upset at the time]. but only his dad was there. we got to talking...did i tell my parents yet? how's work? blah blah blah. then DUN DUN DUN have you thought about adoption at all? UH NO! why does everyone keep asking me that!? so he goes off about how there's so many people who want kids real bad [both my boyfriend and his brother are adopted]. i told him no, i can't do it. i can understand how people might do that with their first, they don't know what they're missing. but i do, and i could never keep one baby and give up another. thanks, bob, but no thanks.

[krista778]

Did you give him the idea that you didn't want to keep the baby? Maybe your boyfriend and you should clear the air with them as to your intentions about the baby. hope things work out well for you all.

[nebraskamomto2]

I'm adopted and did not have a positive experience, so this is a sore topic for me.  But honestly, I hate it when people talk about children like they're puppies.  Yes, there are people who are wanting to adopt a child, but that doesn't mean they're better for that child than the birth parents!  Kids don't care as much about financial stability, big houses, and fancy cars as much as they do about having a loving bond with their parents.   Some kids do great with their adoptive parents, but others do not.  IMO adoptive parents should have to go through massive amounts of counseling on how to handle the abandonment issues their adopted children will likely have...JMO

[randi1978]

This is coming from a birthmother who surrendered her second born...

Tell him to jump off a damned cliff.  All those childless couples shouldn't be a concern of yours and he had no right to even suggest it.  I cannot even begin to describe the emotional hell it is for the older child to see their sibling go live with other people and then be told the sibling isn't their sibling anymore. 

Tell him if he is so damned worried about all those childless couples, he should make babies for them himself.  Just because a couple can shell out $20,000 to adopt a child doesn't make them better parents.

[DanaG70]

Did you tell him to "kiss your a$$"??? I would have. 

[clovismommy25]

When I got pregnant with my son I was 16. The ONLY thought in my mind was, "hmm, I wonder how life is going to be when the baby gets here" I never considered adoption (I am an EXTREME prolifer, so of course abortion never did either). My family knew I would never adopt out my child. His parents on the other hand tried to get me to let them take my son. LMFAO!!!!!! That crazy ass woman wasn't gonna raise my kid! no way in hell. I may be young, but I am a damn good mom. when I found out I was pregnant with my second, DH and I were having some problems. She again said, maybe you should put him up for adoption, that way a baby wont make the choice for you. "fuck you bitch" didn't talk to her again for a year. People drive me crazy!

CONGRATS ON THE BABY!!!!  (here is some pink for you!)