Seriously, is it a grandma complex to think you are a better mom than your daughter?? I'm sick of my mother making sure she points out everything I'm doing wrong and says "oh how can you do this? blah blah blah..." "how can you do thaaaattt?"
I swear it feels like my mother is trying to take my daughter so she can get a second chance at being a mom since she was such a horrible mother to me. Even her sister once told me that she felt like she was trying to take my child for a second chance and said that she wasn't ever a really good mother to me! HER OWN SISTER!
I told her tonight that I was mad at my daughter. We were taking Christmas pictures (I was taking pics of them...) and we were sitting on the steps...I told my daughter to HOLD HIM and make sure he doesn't fall...sure enough, she doesn't listen and the baby falls down the steps (and I caught him mid air before rolling down the stairs..) My mother told me "oh she just knows you love the baby more than her and that's why she's acting bad..." Seriously, wtf??
Am I the only one with a mother like this??
There was no abuse, I was young and had no where to go. Her staying with my so called mother was just supposed to be temporary and now I get bullshit excuses from her as to why I cannot have my daughter. She is 6, i have had my own place for 3 years and I moved on my own free will and have never been evicted but anyways that woman thinks she can raise my dd and try to do things better with her cuz she was a horrible mom to be but thats a long story
Quoting heavenlyangl420:
Quoting Stephanie2107:
I have a mother like this, she did take my oldest child and I hate her everyday for it
how did she just take him from you? i didnt know they can do that unless there is a real problem like abuse
sorry you are going through this. my mom is nothing like this but my mil on the other hand. i never hear the end of how my son is malnurished because he is thin, and my kids are raising themselves.
Quoting Stephanie2107:
I have a mother like this, she did take my oldest child and I hate her everyday for it
So I'm NOT the only one who's mother has taken their older child? I'm so glad to know that..
I'm a breast & formula feeding, disposable diapering, CIO as a last optioning, babywearing & stroller pushing, selective vaxing, prolife, anti circing, doula loving, working out of home, crazy sock loving, dog & cat having, hair-covering, Allah fearing, hand-sewing, exotic name loving, spanking, time-outing, speak-before-you-think, cyst having, history-loving, online-schooling, you have your own opinions so let me have mine, reverted Muslim mommy of 2 gorgeous biracial girls with different fathers.
Quoting Stephanie2107:
There was no abuse, I was young and had no where to go. Her staying with my so called mother was just supposed to be temporary and now I get bullshit excuses from her as to why I cannot have my daughter. She is 6, i have had my own place for 3 years and I moved on my own free will and have never been evicted but anyways that woman thinks she can raise my dd and try to do things better with her cuz she was a horrible mom to be but thats a long story
Quoting heavenlyangl420:
Quoting Stephanie2107:
I have a mother like this, she did take my oldest child and I hate her everyday for it
how did she just take him from you? i didnt know they can do that unless there is a real problem like abuse
cant you take her to court. i would if you on your own there is no reason why she should still have her
Quoting Stephanie2107:
There was no abuse, I was young and had no where to go. Her staying with my so called mother was just supposed to be temporary and now I get bullshit excuses from her as to why I cannot have my daughter. She is 6, i have had my own place for 3 years and I moved on my own free will and have never been evicted but anyways that woman thinks she can raise my dd and try to do things better with her cuz she was a horrible mom to be but thats a long story
Quoting heavenlyangl420:
Quoting Stephanie2107:
I have a mother like this, she did take my oldest child and I hate her everyday for it
how did she just take him from you? i didnt know they can do that unless there is a real problem like abuse
My moms a scheming bitch and lied to me, saying if I signed custody over, she'd give her back whenever I was "ready". I had no job at the time (I was living with her and had to quit to stay with my dad).. And she kept telling me if I took her petition for emergency custody to court and fought it, I'd lose and it would be harder to get my DD back. She was my MOM she raised me, I didnt think she'd lie to me. Turns out, signing her over caused me A LOT more problems.
ETA: The emergency custody order was due to "abuse": I smacked DD who was 1.5 in the mouth because she tried to swallow a keychain ring and bit me when I went to fish it out.. I smacked her to make her cry instead of prying her jaw apart which would have hurt me. I was also accused of underage drinking, drug abuse, etc because I have a GI disorder where I'm sick for endless hours and I suffer from migraines which tend to have hangover like symptoms.. I didn't drink nor have I ever done any drugs (besides smoke a lil MJ)
I'm a breast & formula feeding, disposable diapering, CIO as a last optioning, babywearing & stroller pushing, selective vaxing, prolife, anti circing, doula loving, working out of home, crazy sock loving, dog & cat having, hair-covering, Allah fearing, hand-sewing, exotic name loving, spanking, time-outing, speak-before-you-think, cyst having, history-loving, online-schooling, you have your own opinions so let me have mine, reverted Muslim mommy of 2 gorgeous biracial girls with different fathers.
I was 17 when I had my oldest she is now 6, what happene. PM me if you want to talk. I am very sure we could relate alot too
Quoting ANandLPsMom:
Quoting Stephanie2107:
I have a mother like this, she did take my oldest child and I hate her everyday for it
So I'm NOT the only one who's mother has taken their older child? I'm so glad to know that..
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on Nov. 22, 2009 at 2:34 AM