If your dad told you the reason he was not in your life for 18 years because your mom moved and he could not find you but you never moved from the city that he had you in would you belive it? WOuld you take it as a good excuse for him to have not been in your life? Is that a good excuse? I mean if you want to find someone you can right?
Sorry, but HELL NO! Think about it, if your SO took your kids (God forbid) and moved. Would you ever give up looking for them? You'd knock down doors and knock out people to find them. End of story.
Wondering what type of lie dd's "father" will fabricate for not being in her life.
Yea I had a hard time accepting it. Plus after that big excuse he never did much better than that except whine about me not calling on fathers day, or telling him I was getting married. Dads can be such loosers.
Quoting So_Devious20:Sorry, but HELL NO! Think about it, if your SO took your kids (God forbid) and moved. Would you ever give up looking for them? You'd knock down doors and knock out people to find them. End of story.
Wondering what type of lie dd's "father" will fabricate for not being in her life.
Nope. I'm not buying it. I didn't see my mom from the time I was 2 until I was 12. She told me that my Dad wouldn't let her see me. She also said that the only reason he got custody was that his parents had more money than her parents' did, so he got a better lawyer. I didn't buy her story at 12, and I don't buy your father's story at 32.
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I home school because I have seen the village, and I don't want it educating my children!
My best friend in elementary school was fed this bullshit line. Her dad lived about 12 minutes away and she had NEVER met him. Actually, she probably had run into him but didn't know it was him, know what i mean? It was pathetic and sad. I moved away when I was 13 so I don't know if she ever met him but to this day I'm shocked that a "man" could do that to his child.
Sorry, girl. ):
Quoting misssy2000:
Yea I had a hard time accepting it. Plus after that big excuse he never did much better than that except whine about me not calling on fathers day, or telling him I was getting married. Dads can be such loosers.
Quoting So_Devious20:
Sorry, but HELL NO! Think about it, if your SO took your kids (God forbid) and moved. Would you ever give up looking for them? You'd knock down doors and knock out people to find them. End of story.
Wondering what type of lie dd's "father" will fabricate for not being in her life.
awl, I would always think what if I was in the same place as my dad and walked right by him. It totally drove me crazy, because I would seriosuly want to walk up to randem stranger and ask are you my daddy? Yea, that is pathetic. By 18 I was so over having a dad, then bam my brother finds me and tells me where my dad is and that he wants to see me. see I guess I just dont get it. I could not imagine not doing everything I could to be in my kids life. I guess I willnever understand that.
Quoting KT9105:My best friend in elementary school was fed this bullshit line. Her dad lived about 12 minutes away and she had NEVER met him. Actually, she probably had run into him but didn't know it was him, know what i mean? It was pathetic and sad. I moved away when I was 13 so I don't know if she ever met him but to this day I'm shocked that a "man" could do that to his child.
you were smart at 12, At 28 I constantly second guess if he could have honeslty been looking all that time.
Quoting Lori_G4:Nope. I'm not buying it. I didn't see my mom from the time I was 2 until I was 12. She told me that my Dad wouldn't let her see me. She also said that the only reason he got custody was that his parents had more money than her parents' did, so he got a better lawyer. I didn't buy her story at 12, and I don't buy your father's story at 32.
On a bright note, at least he tried to make an excuse to try spare your feelings which shows that he at least cares enough about you to do so. I got a hold of my mother a few years back and was told quite frankly that she didn't want me then and she don't want me now.
But yea, op, I think your dad could have gotten to you if he had enough desire to do so.
Quoting Schleetle:
I don't think its a good excuse.
i don't think its a good excuse either but just be very glad you found him/ he found you, which ever the case may be. I'm 41 and have never laid eyes on my real dad. i was born in Wisconsin and moved to Kentucky right after i got out of the hos. long story short, my mom got with my real dad, got pregnant and had me. my real dad never wanted anyone to know i was his. my mom and dad was married to other people. i found out about him at age 9, started looking for him, he was in the army so I'm sure he moved alot and i didn't have much info. to go on. i finally located a half brother's wife on Internet (i never knew any of his other kids names) anyway, i learned hes passed away and now i can't get her to get back in touch with me. she did verify my dad was her husbands dad also by a pic. i have. i say make the best of it, poor excuse or not. i will never get the chance to know my real dad and would do anything to get the chance.
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