I have a brother inlaw who is gay. I do not care that he is gay my kids know and love him. Here is the problem his whole life is about sex. He cannot hold a conversation without bringing it up. He is a human sexuality professor. He is convinced everyone is truly gay and just supressing it. So it is all he talks about, he has lost all concept of what is appropriate especially around kids. He thinks it is his job to get my nineteen year old to party and explore her sexuality. He makes lude comments all the time. When you call him on it he just says don't you know Iam a human sexuality professor? So He is visiting for the holidays. What would you do?
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Just tell him that you're really glad he is comfortable with all that but you would rather him not talk like that in front of the kids (or you for that matter, I know I wouldn't want to hear about it all the time) and if he is going to then you don't want your kids around him.
Sorry if that is no help, I'm not good with confrontations.
I have a female friend and ALL she talks about it sex, i mean its BAD. If she doesnt get it from her boyfriend for more than a day (and her boyfriend is my SO's best friend), she complains about it , doesnt matter who is in the room or not, hell she puts crap about it on facebook..yes the world wide web.
We had gone out one night, and she stayed the night here and was ranting and raving about it , with my 7 yr old here.
I finally looked at her and said, you know....i would like my daughter to learn about SEX and what it means through me and not through you, so shut your pie hole!
Why not be direct with him, stop trying to be nice about it ....blow up at him, that just may give him the hint that he needs.
OR
Every time he starts talking like that , send your children out of the room.....he will probably ask why, then tell him how you feel.
He is hardly ever around this is his first visit in the last few years. He doesn't care he thinks it is tied to being proud about being gay.
Quoting mistie900:
Just tell him that you're really glad he is comfortable with all that but you would rather him not talk like that in front of the kids (or you for that matter, I know I wouldn't want to hear about it all the time) and if he is going to then you don't want your kids around him.
Sorry if that is no help, I'm not good with confrontations.
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He thinks we are too conservative lol he wouldn't care. I am very up front with him. The other night he im my 19 year old something inappropriate on facebook. So I asked him what kind of uncle would do that he responded he would be any kind of uncle he wanted.
Quoting Lanie_momofone:
I have a female friend and ALL she talks about it sex, i mean its BAD. If she doesnt get it from her boyfriend for more than a day (and her boyfriend is my SO's best friend), she complains about it , doesnt matter who is in the room or not, hell she puts crap about it on facebook..yes the world wide web.
We had gone out one night, and she stayed the night here and was ranting and raving about it , with my 7 yr old here.
I finally looked at her and said, you know....i would like my daughter to learn about SEX and what it means through me and not through you, so shut your pie hole!
Why not be direct with him, stop trying to be nice about it ....blow up at him, that just may give him the hint that he needs.
OR
Every time he starts talking like that , send your children out of the room.....he will probably ask why, then tell him how you feel.
Check out my book http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Yes-They-Are-All-Mine/Linda-Dyson/e/9781438909295/?itm=3 You can help save lives check it out !
Then i wouldnt allow him in my home, but thats just me lol ....but you do know at 19, she is probably having sex already right?? So i mean, the sex topic to her probably isnt as bad as you think it is.
Quoting momaof8:
He thinks we are too conservative lol he wouldn't care. I am very up front with him. The other night he im my 19 year old something inappropriate on facebook. So I asked him what kind of uncle would do that he responded he would be any kind of uncle he wanted.
Quoting Lanie_momofone:
I have a female friend and ALL she talks about it sex, i mean its BAD. If she doesnt get it from her boyfriend for more than a day (and her boyfriend is my SO's best friend), she complains about it , doesnt matter who is in the room or not, hell she puts crap about it on facebook..yes the world wide web.
We had gone out one night, and she stayed the night here and was ranting and raving about it , with my 7 yr old here.
I finally looked at her and said, you know....i would like my daughter to learn about SEX and what it means through me and not through you, so shut your pie hole!
Why not be direct with him, stop trying to be nice about it ....blow up at him, that just may give him the hint that he needs.
OR
Every time he starts talking like that , send your children out of the room.....he will probably ask why, then tell him how you feel.
Actually she isn't, but that isn't the point. He was going to spain this week and asked her if he should bring her back some Spanish fly. She didn't know what it was so we laughed when I explained. But that isn't what an uncle should say to a niece.
Quoting Lanie_momofone:
Then i wouldnt allow him in my home, but thats just me lol ....but you do know at 19, she is probably having sex already right?? So i mean, the sex topic to her probably isnt as bad as you think it is.
Quoting momaof8:
He thinks we are too conservative lol he wouldn't care. I am very up front with him. The other night he im my 19 year old something inappropriate on facebook. So I asked him what kind of uncle would do that he responded he would be any kind of uncle he wanted.
Quoting Lanie_momofone:
I have a female friend and ALL she talks about it sex, i mean its BAD. If she doesnt get it from her boyfriend for more than a day (and her boyfriend is my SO's best friend), she complains about it , doesnt matter who is in the room or not, hell she puts crap about it on facebook..yes the world wide web.
We had gone out one night, and she stayed the night here and was ranting and raving about it , with my 7 yr old here.
I finally looked at her and said, you know....i would like my daughter to learn about SEX and what it means through me and not through you, so shut your pie hole!
Why not be direct with him, stop trying to be nice about it ....blow up at him, that just may give him the hint that he needs.
OR
Every time he starts talking like that , send your children out of the room.....he will probably ask why, then tell him how you feel.
Check out my book http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Yes-They-Are-All-Mine/Linda-Dyson/e/9781438909295/?itm=3 You can help save lives check it out !
He expects you to respect him and his lifestyle so he needs to respect you and yours. I agree with others, if he is going to have an attitude like that then he wouldnt be welcome in my home.
Kinda like a natural sex inhancing pleasure drug for women from mexico spain.
Quoting excougarmama:
WTH is spanish fly?
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