OK, Background first. My inlaws have called CPS on us 3 times for spanking and not feeding our children....to them it abuse if we do not give our son EVERYTHING he wants such as soda and candy. CPS came to my house and I explained that to them and they even checked my son for bruises (which he has none) and they've always closed the case after investigating. 3 times we forgave them....why I do not know. But since my youngest has been born they pretty much ignore him. He looks like a splitting image of his older brother EXCEPT he has light brown hair. MY mom and grandfather both have light brown hair. But I guess that's not good enough for them. They must think he's not my husbands. So they ignore his birthday and when they buy things for my oldest they buy him ALOT but barely anything for my youngest. They also expect us to spend ALL holidays with them regardless if they ignore me and my youngest's birthday. My birthday was this past wensday and they have not called for the past week even though we told them several times it was my B-day. When my oldest has a B-day they make sure he has a party. When my youngest had a B-day they didn't even call to wish him happy b-day...they came a few days later and gave him a gift that they KNEW my oldest son would take from him because it was from Cars..my oldest's favorite thing.
Am I allowing them to step all over me? They are the kid's only grandparents. I am now pregnant and they are already showering this baby with gifts because 1. we're having the first girl and 2. they're pretty sure it's my husbands because they knew we were TTC.
What do I do???
No offense, but they sound like a bunch of douches, but if it makes you feel any better, my family is worse. :)
This is something that you husband needs to deal with. Its not your issue because they are not your parents. You husband needs to pull up his big boy pants and tell his parents that they will no longer be able to see either of the kids unless they straighten up their act.
I know mine is not as bad as yours but my in-laws felt the need to feed my son something everytime we went there to visit (my son is 5 months old and I just started him on Gerber 1st veggies and fruits). They want to give him sherbert, mashed potatoes, etc. I don't like this because first of all its off his schedule and then its not stuff that I want him to have yet. So I told my husband that if he doesn't tell them soon that it needs to stop then I will have to and that is going to start a fight and then I will not be able to ever leave him there because they will feed him while I am not around. I know it doesn't seem like such a big deal but we are his parents and we should decide when things happen and what happens. Just like you with the candy and soda thing.
Good luck...I feel some of you annoyance.
Jeanne, a Conservative Christian Republican, formula feeding, disposable diapering, vaccinating, circumcising c-sectioned, crying it out, proud mommy of one little guy and wife to a great husband.
Tell them to take a long jump off a short cliff and don't come near any of you until they can treat ALL of your children equally. Oh, and I would seriously consider filing harrassment charges against them for making false reports to CPS. That's a felony, last time I checked.
I am so damned glad my ex in laws died before my dd was born. They were horrid people.
To be honest I would just come out and ask them WHY they are doing this to your child?
Second, and I have told these to both sides of our families, if you do something or buy something for ONE you have to do the same for the OTHER. There will be NO playing favorites in this family. If that happens no one will be around them. I do not believe in playing favorites. Rather the child is your BIO child or not...If his family feels that your youngest is not your husband, why do they feel that way? Did something give them the idea that it isnt his? What does your husband say about all this? I can tell you my husband wouldnt put up with that crap.
Im sorry you and your little one is going through this. They do sound like a bunch of jerks.
My dads family was like that with my brother (not the CPS part though)... My dad figured because my brother had brown eyes he wasn't his (my mom has brown eyes) so his family never thought of my brother on his birthday but always gave me something. My mom told them if they can't treat us both equally then forget us both.... so instead of remembering my brother, they quit completely.
Honestly though, if someone were to call CPS on me repeatedly, I wouldn't be allowing them in my life in the first place. GL!!!
when i got prego with our youngest, my mil made a few comments that made me think 'will she treat them the same?' and i told dh , that if they faviour either over the other, we WILL stop contact... i told him i wont play that game... its not right, and its near imposible to make up the difference without the other one feeling like mommy and daddy play faviourits......
honestly, i say you an dhubs sit down..... and tell him that you wont have it....
then the two of you sit with them, and tell them 'you either treat us the same, or your out or our lives'
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