I'm Done, update

[PookaboosMom]

 I'm done with my family, as far as I'm concerned, the only family I have left (on my side of the family, DH's family is great) is my cousin and her daughter.

As I've mentioned in previous posts, I'm selling everything and moving to Florida as soon as I get the just of it all sold.  So I told my family what was going on, and they're upset, mad, not because I'm leaving, but because my daughter's leaving, which is fine.  I understand.  Then my 75 year old grandma came over yesterday.  Comes into my home and tells me I'm killing my mother, and I'm stupid, everything else.  Ok, I've already got a place to live and a job lined up down there....and DH has a few job interviews down there.  Then, infront of my 13 year old stepdaughter and my 3 year old daughter, she just starts berating my husband, their father.  Calling him a worthless piece of shit, telling me how much he hates him, and that if I had a brain at all I would stay up here with them and not leave them for him.  (DH and I made this decision TOGETHER)  I told her I'm sorry but I can't live my whole life for my mom, and she goes "Well why not, She has lived her whole life for you" That's great, she's my mom, she should, I will live my whole life for my 2 girls, but when they are adults they can make their own decisions, if I think something is stupid I will tell them, but I WILL support them.  (My mom is a sneaking controlling bitch, she has always tried to break DH and up, he's older than me closer in age to her, so she used to hit on him until we got married,  she has broke us up many times because she will go behind my back and tell him lies to upset him...all sorts of things)  So yesterday was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I'm done with them.  They can rot for all I care.  The only one I have left there is my cousin, and her daughter.  My cousin's mom also moved far away because my grandma is like my mom, and she understands so well....hell she purposely lives an hour and a half away from the family, and I am the only one who knows how to get to her house in my family.  I just can't wait to be GONE!

 

Thanks!  Needed to get that off my chest.

 

Edit: I wanted to add that thanks to my grandma my daughter (who doesn't know her well for obvious reasons is terrified of everyone she sees now, and my 13 year old is heartbroken over what she said about her dad, I can't believe she said that in front of my kids)

 

Update: So my mom called DH today crying and screaming at him what a worthless piece of shit he is, and how he is taking her baby away.

Then she calls me tonight and tells me that he is an emotionless monster, and that we both sound so cold, like we have no emotions, about how I don't care about what she wants and how he's just taking me away so he will have control over me.  (uhh who's the control freak in the picture?)

[olivejuicebby]

That is horrible that she said that in front of the kids ;( 
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you, it is truly sad. And so close to the holidays. But, they are the ones really missing out. I'm glad that you stood up for yourself.  

[PookaboosMom]

Quoting olivejuicebby:

That is horrible that she said that in front of the kids ;( 
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you, it is truly sad. And so close to the holidays. But, they are the ones really missing out. I'm glad that you stood up for yourself.  

Thank you, I feel bad, but I don't....I can't keep living under their thumb all my life, just because they never followed thru with their dreams, doesn't mean I don't want to with mine!!

[ilovedogs1967]

sounds like you are drawing boundaries and that you have to stick by them. Be strong and hopefully when you make your move and start your new life you will meet some awesome friends, neighbors, or co-workers that will be a family towards you...keep your chin up!!

[PookaboosMom]

Quoting ilovedogs1967:

sounds like you are drawing boundaries and that you have to stick by them. Be strong and hopefully when you make your move and start your new life you will meet some awesome friends, neighbors, or co-workers that will be a family towards you...keep your chin up!!

Thank you, I really appreciate the support!

[lucky2Beeme]

how sad for your children.I hope the move goes well and your husband secures a great job.Maybe further down the raod you can re establish a relationship with boundries.

[PookaboosMom]

Thank you 

[mybabyapples]

sounds to me like your moving is the best thing for your family! im sorry your children had to experience that.