Our 7 year old dd asked this at lunch today. We went for sushi and after she ordered her rainbow roll and pile of tuna sashimi, she turned to dh and I and said, "What should we chat about?" Dh and just shrugged and I said, "I don't know, what do you want to talk about?" She seemed to give it some thought and then said, "Oh, I know! Why do people have sex?" Dh laughed and I said, "Uh, well.....because they love each other and it's fun. And they do it when they're much, much, much, much older." She rolled her eyes and said, "Yeah, yeah, I know that. But not everyone who has sex is in love. What about your friend Ana? She thinks her boyfriend is an idiot, but they have sex, right?" "Uh, yeah, it's complicated..." I'm scrambling for more to say and she suddenly says, "Okay, let's move on, this is a boring subject. Can I have a bowl of edamame and more tea?" And that was it. She asks the strangest questions at the strangest times and sometimes I think she more interested in our reactions than in the answers... ;-)
lol, that may very well be. but your reaction is ALWAYS important! So you kinda have to be prepared for the unexpected lol. I DREAD DREAD DREAD the sex talk with my dd.........
I can't imagine hitting anyone, much less my child, for asking a question. It's my responsibility as an adult to answer as honestly as I can keeping in mind her ability to understand at her age. You can't dictate what a very bright child will learn or say all you can do is be ready to talk.
Quoting mommaholly13:
my half sister alexandria just turned 8 this month. i think if she knew / or ever talked about sex before maybe 13 i would have to slap her. i honestly dont think 7yr olds should know much less worry about sex. but thats just i.m.o
So should we keep them locked up until they reach the appropriate age to ask about sex? I can't imagine hitting a child just because she asked a question. They hear it and want to know what it is. My son hasn't asked about it yet, but he will and when he does it will be explained in a way he can understand. Sex is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Quoting mommaholly13:my half sister alexandria just turned 8 this month. i think if she knew / or ever talked about sex before maybe 13 i would have to slap her. i honestly dont think 7yr olds should know much less worry about sex. but thats just i.m.o
I agree. Also, you cant control what other children are saying in front of her at school and such...Kids know a lot of things they shouldnt these days. OP i think you handled it well.
Quoting inspain:
I can't imagine hitting anyone, much less my child, for asking a question. It's my responsibility as an adult to answer as honestly as I can keeping in mind her ability to understand at her age. You can't dictate what a very bright child will learn or say all you can do is be ready to talk.
Quoting mommaholly13:
my half sister alexandria just turned 8 this month. i think if she knew / or ever talked about sex before maybe 13 i would have to slap her. i honestly dont think 7yr olds should know much less worry about sex. but thats just i.m.o
Oh, it takes a LOT more than that to embarass me, I just get exhausted sometimes from the pop quizzes. Yesterday morning, at 5:45, I'm sitting on the toilet in the still dark and she suddenly appears and asks, "Why is that Steven Hawking guy in a wheelchair?" My not-quite-awake-answer to that was, "A. Whatever happened to 'good morning mom'? B. I'm BUSY. and C. You have a computer, look it up." It's tough to bring my parenting A-Game at that hour... ;-)
Quoting AydensMom8590:
haha that was pretty funny! Im sure it might have embarrassed u guys but dang kids say the darndest things! Now i see what i have to look forward to when my son gets older! DANG IT! Thanks for sharing momma!
i agree. kids hear things and are curious. what do u tell a child when they ask where babies come from? would u slap them as well for asking that question?
Quoting A.J.s_mommy:
I agree. Also, you cant control what other children are saying in front of her at school and such...Kids know a lot of things they shouldnt these days. OP i think you handled it well.
Quoting inspain:
I can't imagine hitting anyone, much less my child, for asking a question. It's my responsibility as an adult to answer as honestly as I can keeping in mind her ability to understand at her age. You can't dictate what a very bright child will learn or say all you can do is be ready to talk.
Quoting mommaholly13:
my half sister alexandria just turned 8 this month. i think if she knew / or ever talked about sex before maybe 13 i would have to slap her. i honestly dont think 7yr olds should know much less worry about sex. but thats just i.m.o
That one might be punch worthy instead!! LOL! Just kidding!
Quoting meghan451:
i agree. kids hear things and are curious. what do u tell a child when they ask where babies come from? woudl u slap them as well for asking that question?
Quoting A.J.s_mommy:
I agree. Also, you cant control what other children are saying in front of her at school and such...Kids know a lot of things they shouldnt these days. OP i think you handled it well.
Quoting inspain:
I can't imagine hitting anyone, much less my child, for asking a question. It's my responsibility as an adult to answer as honestly as I can keeping in mind her ability to understand at her age. You can't dictate what a very bright child will learn or say all you can do is be ready to talk.
Quoting mommaholly13:
my half sister alexandria just turned 8 this month. i think if she knew / or ever talked about sex before maybe 13 i would have to slap her. i honestly dont think 7yr olds should know much less worry about sex. but thats just i.m.o
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- inspain
on Nov. 22, 2009 at 3:12 PM