Did she really say that? How can one person be so cruel????EDIT
My grandmother is really out of control! So, my grandpa passed on Friday. Her and my grandpa have not been together since after the birth of my mom, who is now 45. My uncle lives nearby and my mom tried to make it down there but couldn't in time. My grandma has always been crazy and has this thing with the girls in the family not so much the boys. So her and my mom never really get along. My mom and my uncle are not financially prepared to pay for it so my grandma will more than likely pay for everything.
My mom wants a viewing because she didn't get a chance to see him before he passed. We are driving down on Thursday to make it on Friday for the viewing as well. My grandmother called the guy and told him to go ahead and cremate him now!!!!! She called my mom and told her that she did that and of course my mom was really upset. She told my mom, "Well, I'm out of it. You can just take him home all cold and put him in your bed if you want!" How can one woman be so cruel???
even though she's crazy, she's probably still grieving the loss. Not everybody can be perky, and if she wanted him cremated, then she still could have waited until after a viewing....
She lost her husband, probably the only person she's been with for a very long time (other than her kids whom she doesnt seem all that close to) and she could have even been going with his wishes. Maybe he told her before he passed to cremate ASAP and not do a viewing
I think your grandmother is just really in a lot of pain, and she's in the anger phase of grieving. I mean, she just lost her husband. Not that what she did was okay, but unless she does that type of thing a lot...I'm guessing she's not that cruel of a person.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Well grandmom is under a lot of stress right now, losing her husband.
She is the decision maker being his wife and the financially responsble party.
She has is the decision maker. I understand your mothers regrets but, maybe grandma can't foot the bill for the viewing, etc.
That is really sick and cruel. I cannot stand women like this, women that prefer the men in their own families to the detriment of the women.
You said your gma has to pay for everything. Maybe she can't afford a viewing and all the extra costs associated with it. It wasn't nice the way she phrased it though. I think it may have been the grief talking.
I should have noted....my grandmother and grandfather have not been together since like after the birth of my mom. In fact, my grandpa despised her because she treats everyone in the family so poorly. My grandpa, was basically my moms outlet because my grandmother is continually ragging on her and us granddaughters.
Quoting Not.So.Virginal:even though she's crazy, she's probably still grieving the loss. Not everybody can be perky, and if she wanted him cremated, then she still could have waited until after a viewing....
She lost her husband, probably the only person she's been with for a very long time (other than her kids whom she doesnt seem all that close to) and she could have even been going with his wishes. Maybe he told her before he passed to cremate ASAP and not do a viewing
sorry but I don't see anything wrong with what your grandmother did. Especially if she is paying. The fact is that a viewing and holding the body that long is going to significantly increase the cost of the funeral, etc because the body will have to be embalmed to stop decomposition.
It is awful that your mother was not able to make it in time to see her father.
Maybe she and her brother can put together a slideshow of pictures of their father to show at a wake (you can have a wake without the body).
ETA: if they have been seperated as long as you say and she is still footing the cost for his funeral, etc so that he isn't disposed of by the state...then she is a better woman then you are giving her credit for being.
This.
Quoting Trisha-Faye:sorry but I don't see anything wrong with what your grandmother did. Especially if she is paying. The fact is that a viewing and holding the body that long is going to significantly increase the cost of the funeral, etc because the body will have to be embalmed to stop decomposition.
It is awful that your mother was not able to make it in time to see her father.
Maybe she and her brother can put together a slideshow of pictures of their father to show at a wake (you can have a wake without the body).
ETA: if they have been seperated as long as you say and she is still footing the cost for his funeral, etc so that he isn't disposed of by the state...then she is a better woman then you are giving her credit for being.
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