what if dad didn't know the child even existed??
all these cs posts going around, I had to ask this.
say after 10 yrs a man who is barely struggling, pay check to pay check, he is married and got two kids, he is contacted by the state to go take a paternity test to prove a child is his. he takes the test. the child is indeed his. he is then ordered to pay cs, over half of what he makes to a child he don't know and a bm he wish he didn't.
now- the child came about from a one night stand. he wore a condom. she told him he was on the pill. the bm ended up marring a man she met while preger with kid, and told her hubby the truth. well, ten yrs go by they split, she is struggling as well so decides to track down bd to make him pay cs.
the BD does not want to see or be a part of this child's life. he has reasons that pertain to his family on why he don't want to be a part of this child's life.
meanwhile, the child is in counseling b/c he misses the man he knew all his life and does not want to see his BD right now either.
DOES THE BD PAY CS? DO YOU FEEL HE IS REQUIRED TO DO SO? WHY OR WHY NOT?
he should support the child but should most def not have to pay back support. and they really should consider he has a family to support.
yes he made a baby he needs to support the child somehow no matter what !
maybe he needed to be more careful who he was getting busy with and that would not have happened
I love how creative women are in finding reasons a guy should not have to take care of his kids ! Except when it is there own kid .
Asked and answered.
If you have sex be prepared to either get married or pay cs.
this post does not have crap to do with me personally. I made this scenerio up in my head to ask the question
Quoting freedomthinks:
yes he made a baby he needs to support the child somehow no matter what !
maybe he needed to be more careful who he was getting busy with and that would not have happened
I love how creative women are in finding reasons a guy should not have to take care of his kids ! Except when it is there own kid .
See im gonna get bashed but I dont give a shit.
Why should he have to pay for a child he didnt even know he had or if the woman lies and says shes on BC?
If A woman didnt want the child she would have had a abortion but if the man dont want the child he still has to pay for it and take care of it. how is that fair?
After 10 years?? Regardless of the man's family situation, no he shouldn't have to pay. Yes he should be given the option to be in the child's life. I think any BM who would wait THAT long and deny their child the money is a dumb bitch anyway and their kid has probably been suffering the whole time. This includes moms who don't know who the father is because they slept with so many people they have to track him down. Kids born in those situations are just unfortunate. It may take 2 to make a child but if your vagina sees more traffic than the Lincoln tunnel you have some serious issues.
I don't think he should have to. I"m guessing by how detailed it is, you know someone who is going through this, and for that I'm sorry. It's the BM's fault for not even telling him that he had a son. 10 years is a long time to just not tell someone something like that.
I think it's a little messed up that he wants nothing to do with his son's life, but to each his own. that's probably more out of hate for the mother than the child which isn't right, but is understandable.
When I was born, my mother was 15 and my father was 12 (he turned 13, 18 days after I was born). She told him that someone else was the father, and this other guy never helped her. Well, once she figured out who the real dad was, she panicked and left town. Gave me up for adoption, and when I finally found her again, I was 18. My adoptive parents had told me all about this other guy that THEY all thought had been the father, and I wanted nothing to do with him. Well, mom, once i found her, introduced me to this same friend of hers and after we left she cared to inform me that yes, he was indeed my dad. She called him up two days later and said "Oh, btw, remember how I had told you that that was my daughter that I had had when we were both younger? Yeah, did I happen to mention that she's your daughter?"
Dad and I weren't very happy with her for a while. But I've had 18 years to be mad at her for what she did. I have the rest of my lifetime to spend thanking the stars that I can say I found my family.
That happened to my BIL. He found out he had a 5 year old daughter he never knew about, but he was known for his one night stands so it wasn't a supprise that he could have had a child somewhere in the world.When paternity was established BM got an order for CS and he had to pay.
This actually happened to a buddy of my dh's. He found out about the child when she was 4. The only difference is that the bio mom didn't just want cs, she actually wanted him to take custody of the little girl, which he did.
I do think the bd should have to pay cs. It's a crappy situation, and the bm was a b-word for not telling him about the child, but it is still his responsibility.
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- ajjs1972
on Nov. 22, 2009 at 7:40 PM