cheating?

[kjsmama0206]

Ok I have a quick question. My Dh is majorly stressing because he is friends with a woman at work. He has been getting marriage advice from her lately because we are having a rough patch in our marriage. Yeah I dont think this was the best idea but that is beside the point. Her husband thinks they are "together". Anyways her husband is threatning to take it to his work. He is going to try and get him demoted or fired over this. Can he really do that? What his wife does on her personal time has nothing to  do with work. Yeah I could see how it would be the works problem if they were hooking up at work or something like that but they were not. They did not have sex at work, they didnt have sex at all all they did was talk just like anyone else does. Her husband thinks they are cheating and whatever but what does that have to do with his job? If this does happen what can my DH do? how can he fight this?

[hisbabybat]

that's a touchy subject, I'm kind of fuzzy on specifics to help you out there but here's a *bump*.

also gotta wonder if there's something to her husband thinking they're doing something.. 

[myfoursonsks]

I would tell your husband that he needs to cease all contact with her for multiple reasons.

[MikeysMom51108]

What kind of job does your husband have?

If I were him, I would give the boss a heads up about what's going on. Let the boss know that her husband is threatening to come in and start trouble. That way, if he does come in, the boss already knows what's going on.

And, if he has to, your husband can get the police involved because her husband cannot be harassing him at work.

[ErikaM27]

he could probably loose his job if they don't even want to hear his side of the story? I would talk to the boss and let him know of what the guy plans to do to get him fired because he feels the wife is cheating with him that way he/she knows a heads up. Other than that I dont know i would just keep clear fo the woman.

[ErikaM27]

Quoting MikeysMom51108:

What kind of job does your husband have?

If I were him, I would give the boss a heads up about what's going on. Let the boss know that her husband is threatening to come in and start trouble. That way, if he does come in, the boss already knows what's going on.

And, if he has to, your husband can get the police involved because her husband cannot be harassing him at work.

I agree get a police report

[3earthangels]

Cheating is different for everyone. For me, a close personal relationship (ei talkng about marriage problems) with someone of the opposite sex would offend me greatly.

Your DH needs to cut ties b/c obviously her DH believes what she is doing with your DH is inappropriate. Why be the reason for a problem in someone else's mariage?

[SGJsmom]

If there aren't specific rules for personal relationships with co-workers, than there really isn't anything they can do. If there are rules against it, than your DH could have a real battle. Hopefully, management will listen to the entire story.

[kjsmama0206]

He is a supervisor at a trucking company.

I do not think there is anything going on between them because he was up front and told me what he was doing before he did it. I highly doubt he would tell me that he was talking to her and exacly what was going on before it happened if he was.

So you think it would be best if he gave the boss a heads up? My dh doesnt go in until a little bit later in the day what if he goes in the morning?

I dont understand how even if they were having an affair on their own time that it should be able to affect his work. They did not get caught having sex at work, or do anything there besides talk. If he can lose his job for that then everyone there should lose there jobs. I am sure every woman there talks to men, and vice versa

[allyson2212]

Im just wondering why her husband thinks they were having an affair, enough to threaten such a thing. I mean, what could she have possibly told him to make him so sure? If I were you, I would want to talk to him and see whats going on. But thats just me, and from another post on here today, Im a little paranoid! lol As far as what your DH can do, Im not going to be much help, sorry! 

[kjsmama0206]

Quoting allyson2212:

Im just wondering why her husband thinks they were having an affair, enough to threaten such a thing. I mean, what could she have possibly told him to make him so sure? If I were you, I would want to talk to him and see whats going on. But thats just me, and from another post on here today, Im a little paranoid! lol As far as what your DH can do, Im not going to be much help, sorry! 

I have talked to him. I talked to him earlier today. He thinks so because 1. she cheated before 2. he saw on her facebook that they were going to lunch (I knew already with out spying) 3. Because on the phone records he checked there were several conversations, and text messages from him.