I need to spice it up a bit...*sex related...possible TMI*

[beadingmom17]

Ladies, I need some serious help!  Ever since my youngest was born (16 mos ago) I have had ZERO sex drive at all.  It's not that I don't want to and it's not that I don't enjoy it...it's just that...well...I don't want it?  I feel bad because my husband and I used to have a great sex life and I feel like I'm making him suffer :(  I need some ideas that can help me spice it up in the bedroom.  I need something to...idk...get me more into it?  Anyone been through this?  HELP, please!!!!

[ajswenson]

MAKE yourself do it every day for a week.  I have found out that I just get to the point where I could care less if I get any, BUT if I just start getting more, then I want more.  It's like you've got to wake the beast up! Go for it.

[michelle121003]

What makes you feel sexy?  That will help him out!  If you aren't feeling it, then it's not gonna happen...so what do YOU want to do to feel sexy??

[beadingmom17]

I never thought about it that way, but I guess that makes sense...at the very least, my husband will be thrilled, LOL!

Quoting ajswenson:

MAKE yourself do it every day for a week.  I have found out that I just get to the point where I could care less if I get any, BUT if I just start getting more, then I want more.  It's like you've got to wake the beast up! Go for it.

[mom_4kiddos]

You need to feel good about yourself, get enough sleep and exercise...All these things help with a better sex drive. Among other things you can do.  Oh, and if your stress that really kills things.

[beadingmom17]

That might be part of it, too...I've had 2 kids, both over 9lbs, lovely stretch marks, a lovely c-section "skin apron", and am heavier than when we started dating...so, that could lend to it...LOL

Quoting michelle121003:

What makes you feel sexy?  That will help him out!  If you aren't feeling it, then it's not gonna happen...so what do YOU want to do to feel sexy??

[TheSinFamily]

if you're comfortable with it - visit an adult store together and pick some things out to try together.

[myfoursonsks]

Are you on BC?  That can really mess with your libido. 

[beadingmom17]

We used to do that before we had kids :)  We haven't done that in a while, though...might be fun to go again...

Quoting TheSinFamily:

if you're comfortable with it - visit an adult store together and pick some things out to try together.

[beadingmom17]

Nope.  Never have been, never will be...it's just not for me.

Quoting myfoursonsks:

Are you on BC?  That can really mess with your libido. 

[DanaG70]

Make a date, mark it on the calendar, think about it all the time. Believe me, when the time comes you'll be ready for it! ;)