i have tought if from near day one..... just samll comments here and there.......
they have done studies that proove that kids who are tought earlyer good touch bad touch, and to come to mommy and daddy(or another adult they trust)if someone bad touches them... have a signigicantly less chance at being victimized......
so... when do you start teaching good touch bad touch
as of may
same as you... pretty much from day 1
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(")_(") world domination.
ironicly i just had this talk with my 5 yr old son this past friday.
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My son is eight months old so he surely does not understand what the hell I'm talking about. But I already practice all those "difficult" talks with him... you know, practice for the day he DOES understand. I will probably just keep talking and when he is a little bit older and I can ask him questions and get answers I will go into more detail.
when my dd is a little older i will. she is gonna be 3 in march. but its so important to tell her soon im so paranoid. ive always asked my mil about it and i think ill tell my dd that if someone tells her and if it makes her feel icky or weird to tell someone. and that i cant explain the feeling but that if it ever happened shell would know. and if i ever or her daddy ever make her feel that icky feeling to tell us (could be on accienct idk everyones "bonderies" are different). and that no matter what she can tell anyone not just mommy but that its not ok and she needs to tell someone
Quoting ErikaM27:
what do you all tell your kids and how?
well, my oldest is near 4 now, but when he was just a baby, i would tell him, as i was changing diapers, 'this is your special spot'... or 'this is aidans/calebs special spot' or 'this is aidans/calebs, no one elses'....
when they hit about one, i started telling them 'no one touches aidans/calebs spots without changing diapers or giving baths'
calebs nto there yet, but soon, but aidan, when he turned two, i started telling him 'tell mommy if someone touches your spot, ok' and 'tell mommy if you get a bad feeling from someone'.....
just small things, each time we bath them, or change diapers, or take aidan potty.......
aidan, last summer, took off his cloths at the pool(it was funny, but i saw it as a learning opp for him)i put his cloths back and told him 'thats your spcial spot aidan, no one touches, and you dont show everyone'.... and when he discoverd himself, and even still now, lol, i tell him 'if you can see us, we can see you.... thats aidans privit time.... cause i dont want him to feel ashamed, but at the same time, he needs to learn, that if he can see us, we can see him....
hoping im wording this right, lol... no sleep last night..... so im exahsted
as of may
ive been told im a strange mom, causei do this also, lol...
my sister does also.... she has told her son, sense birth, the good touch bad touch, and also, to wrap it later in life, lol...
we have been told were strange, cause we do talk to our kids at so young, all the 'hard' talks.... but... well, i have seen so many posts on here about 'are they old enough' 'when do i start such and such talk'.... i figure, if i start it now, then i wont wonder when they are old enough.... and i hope that it will promote good communication, and also show them that they can ask mommy and come to mommy with questions and such.... i want them educated by ME and my hbus.... not there friends.... and kids younger and younger are starting to share there version of 'facts' on sex and such.... i mean, 10 year olds are having sex!!!! and most the time, the 'info' they get from from friends, are completely ridiculous.....
Quoting MarchMarie:
My son is eight months old so he surely does not understand what the hell I'm talking about. But I already practice all those "difficult" talks with him... you know, practice for the day he DOES understand. I will probably just keep talking and when he is a little bit older and I can ask him questions and get answers I will go into more detail.
as of may
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