Child support question

[jessierenee]

If my ex's holiday with my kids started on Friday night a 6 and he didn't call or come by and is just now saying that he is coming to get them, do I have to let them go?

[perfectkitten]

I don't know. I would think that's up to you. Don't keep him from the kids. They don't need to be put in the middle of this. Pull him aside and say something to him. Not in front of the kids. 

[Juliekat23]

Your call mama.  My lawyer said I had to give him a 30 minute window.  After that, he was considered a no show.  But, in my case he only showed up maybe 10% of the time and I couldn't spend all weekend sitting next to the door.

 

[KYLIEAARONMOMMY]

I agree. Don't put the kids in this at all! They should still go see their dad. Do you have court documents that have the rules laid out for the both of you?

Quoting perfectkitten:

I don't know. I would think that's up to you. Don't keep him from the kids. They don't need to be put in the middle of this. Pull him aside and say something to him. Not in front of the kids. 

[Avarah]

3 days late is a little much.

So ok, did he let you know ahead of time that he'd not be able to pick them up 'til tonight?  No, you said, right?

Moving right along.  Will it disappoint the kids not to go?  Is there any reason not to let them go?

If not, then I think let them go even though he's a butthead.  And yeah, he's a butthead.

[a_and_j_momma]

I would let them go if it were me. I would talk to him away from the kids and ask him why he didn't come Friday. Maybe he has a good reason. I would remind him what the visitation plan said about a timeframe. If yours says nothing, then you can't do anything.

[jessierenee]

See ladies this is the thing... he has seen them once in 6 mths. He comes and goes as he pleases with my kids in the middle. He doesn't call to check on them no one from his family does. He gets their hopes up only to crash them when he doesn't come around again for about another month. I completely understand not keeping the kids from him and never have. But it kills me so bad to have to see my kids hurt because of him.

[GinaPQueen]

I would let the kids go, but you do need to talk to him.  Sorry that you have to go thru this.

[jessierenee]

It wasn't even him that said anything it was his mom. Last time I spoke to his mom, my kids were crying to go to her house. He had just called me yelling saying he didnt want "those" kids there without him being there. (at his mom's) and she (usually extremely outspoken the MIL from hell) said she wanted no part in it. She said she had taken out the court papers blah blah blah and he had designated her to pick them up. Oh now she wants something to do with it. I just told her to stay out of our busines and stop trying to control my kids, that I had kids w her son not her.