To bite or not to bite....

[3greatkids751]

OK some of my friends on Facebook are debating on how to deal w/ another one of my friends kids BITEING.... well me as a mother if my kids bite one another I tell them NO and pop them on the butt (yes I spank)..  Well they are telling her to BITE him back.... see I don't get that because how does 2 wrongs here make a right???  It just doesn't make sense to me because if YOU bite the child then the child is going to think "oh well it MUST be OK because my mom just bit ME" KWIM... IDK maybe I'm wrong,   what do you do if YOUR children bite? If you went through the whole biting phase???

[Beatlemama]

I agree with you on biting them back.  Not only will it fail to teach them that biting is wrong, it's unsanitary.  My son went through a biting phase a few months ago.  He was about 9 months old and didn't seem to be biting out of aggression, more like he was "teething" and didn't understand it's not okay to bite another person.  Our ped. recommended just saying "no" and putting him down immediately.  We did that and he stopped biting pretty quickly.  Not sure if that would help your friend, and if my son starts biting others out of aggression, I may handle it differently too.

[3greatkids751]

  Thnx =) I was getting worried I was the only one who doesnt bite there kid lol..

Quoting Beatlemama:

I agree with you on biting them back.  Not only will it fail to teach them that biting is wrong, it's unsanitary.  My son went through a biting phase a few months ago.  He was about 9 months old and didn't seem to be biting out of aggression, more like he was "teething" and didn't understand it's not okay to bite another person.  Our ped. recommended just saying "no" and putting him down immediately.  We did that and he stopped biting pretty quickly.  Not sure if that would help your friend, and if my son starts biting others out of aggression, I may handle it differently too.

[3greatkids751]

Bump....anyone else??

[hadcarmom]

I agree. why would you tell them No bitinng is a no no and bite them!!! There are sooooo many other ways to teach your child decipline!

[mamafor6]

Actually my DD was a biter and after spanking time out and everything else failed for a year, I bite her back. Not hard just enough for her to see biting hurts. She never bit again. But she would bite hard enough to draw blood.

[BethInWI]

My Niece was a biter as well.. Nothing worked to get her to stop. ONe day after a very painful bite on my shoulder i bite her back not enough to hurt but to get the point that any harder and it would she hollered ouchhhhhh... She never realized that biting hurt she was just feeding off the reaction it gave people. She then knew that biting wasnt funny and she NEVER bite again.

[indymom72]

My daugther started that crap when I had to put her in daycare at two..so I bit her back to show her that it hurts and she never did it again.  She thought the reaction she got was funny, until I did it to her and she realized it sucked.

[Angelbluewingsz]

once they realize that biting hurts they usually stop - unless of course they are mean lil brats who like to hurt people. Sometimes biting them back helps. Not for babies, but toddlers and up.

[Fayanne]

What age is the child?

At about 14 months of age my youngest started biting, and biting HARD. The final straw was when she came over to me while I was sitting at the table, leaned over, and chomped on my leg. She drew blood through a pair of jeans and I still have the scar. No 'pop' on the butt had got through to her at that point, she'd been biting her sisters, me, aunts, etc. . I leaned over, took her arm, and bit it. As hard as she bit me? No, of course not.. but her eyes popped wide open and we never had a problem again. 

[DaNiMaRiEsMiTh]

I have done that with both of my youngest kids- my SK were already out of biting... and it worked like a charm. I bit them both just hard enough to feel like a good pinch but not to leave teeth impressions and they never did it again. BUT I did not do it with out telling them "do you know why you can't do that? It hurts people." Then I told them I was showing them that it hurts and why not to do it anymore. I didn't just reach over and bite them. LOL

My Dad on the other hand broke me from biting when I was around a year old- not meaning to is what I was told. LOL He always wore his class ring and was always spinning it around while it was on his finger and I guess I walked over while he was watching TV one night and bit him on his thigh. He popped me in the head not thinking about the ring on his finger and gave me a goose egg!!! But they said I never bit anyone again. LMAO