I could use some honest opinions. The last month or so dh has been making alot of comments about babies and about my being pregnant. Mind you I am not pregnant nor are we actively trying to get pregnant. 6 days ago dh was helping me fold clothes and he came across a pair of infant socks and a little onesie. Dh looked at them with the most adorable look on his face and said how he couldn't believe something so little could fit in them. His eyes filled with water and he quickly put them down and continued to fold more clothes. Then yesterday out of nowhere I was cleaning out my car. I was moving my bowling ball from the backseat to the trunk. Dh came around to the trank area, looked at me and said, "you know if you were pregnant I wouldn't let you do that." I set the ball down and looked up at him. I asked him where that comment came from. He started to walk around to the other side of the car. I followed him and asked him again with a sort of giggle to my voice. He told me he didn't know why he said it he just did. I gave him the eye like, "I know better. He looked at me with a look that said, "I don't know what your talking about." I walked back to the trunk to finish putting the stuff in the car and he followed me repeating, "what!" I just gave him that look again and carried on. Later that night I got to thinking. Is it possible that dh could be getting baby fever? It makes sense because lately he's been wanting to know more about my cycles, his sex drive as increased and he's been making interesting comments. When I ask him though he says no he doesn't have baby fever. I think he's just on the defense because for the pat 2 years he's been saying he doesn't want more kids. I can understand his reasoning for not wanting to admit it. Of course all of this got me thinking. I've been on the fence about having another baby. Some days the boys are enough for me and then other days I have an incredible urge for another baby. I don't 100% think that the time is right for us but in a few months things are for sure going to more right. It takes 9 months to have a baby so....I don't know! Is it possible dh has baby fever and it's rubbing off on me?
He could be. Maybe he wants a girl, lol. My two boys were 4 & 5 when our daughter was born.
Talk to him about it.
Quoting jillbailey26:He could be. Maybe he wants a girl, lol. My two boys were 4 & 5 when our daughter was born.
Talk to him about it.
I've tried to talk to him. He just denies, denies, denies. Says he doesn't have baby fever that he does not want another baby right now, but wouldn't be upset if we did and if we did he wouldn't mind a little girl. Sounds fishy to me.
Quoting Kageegirl:
Quoting jillbailey26:
He could be. Maybe he wants a girl, lol. My two boys were 4 & 5 when our daughter was born.
Talk to him about it.
I've tried to talk to him. He just denies, denies, denies. Says he doesn't have baby fever that he does not want another baby right now, but wouldn't be upset if we did and if we did he wouldn't mind a little girl. Sounds fishy to me.
He might feel weird talking about it since he's been saying he doesn't want another for the past 2 years. He might think that your mind is set too and he doesn't want to make you do anything you don't want to. Have you told him that you're on the fence about it and possibly wouldn't mind either?
I can tell you, after having 2 boys (they're 15 months apart), the girl is a nice change. I'm glad I let my husband talk me into it, lol.
I think he wants another baby, but I think he thinks you don't want another baby so that's why he's denying it. However I think you two need to talk. I have 3 boys and don't regret my boys and they are close in age.
Jen wife to Sam and mom to 3 boys Zachary, Daniel, and Jasper. Jasper is a CDH baby.
Quoting jillbailey26:
Quoting Kageegirl:
Quoting jillbailey26:
He could be. Maybe he wants a girl, lol. My two boys were 4 & 5 when our daughter was born.
Talk to him about it.
I've tried to talk to him. He just denies, denies, denies. Says he doesn't have baby fever that he does not want another baby right now, but wouldn't be upset if we did and if we did he wouldn't mind a little girl. Sounds fishy to me.He might feel weird talking about it since he's been saying he doesn't want another for the past 2 years. He might think that your mind is set too and he doesn't want to make you do anything you don't want to. Have you told him that you're on the fence about it and possibly wouldn't mind either?
I can tell you, after having 2 boys (they're 15 months apart), the girl is a nice change. I'm glad I let my husband talk me into it, lol.
My two boys are close in age as well they are 16 months apart. I love the fact that they are so close in age because they do everything together and surprising enough at 2 1/2 and 4 get along really well. As far as talking to dh about this whole wanting a baby or not we've talked. I told him I wouldn't mind having another baby because I'd like to have a little girl. But I'm honest and can admit to him that I'm not sure some days. The one thing we do agree on is that if it happened we wouldn't be upset we'd be excited. So I can't see why he'd deny wanting another baby.
it must be going around..my husband has had it for a while..he really wants a boy...I told him the other night is he really really wants to try for a boy then we can. I told him but I am going to look up some tips on how to make a boy...lol and hope we get a boy...lol but if we get another girl my tubes will be tied and no more trying for us..I think I will make that agreement with him..if we dont get a boy we are done and I get to get my tubes tied.
I really wish I had some advice. Husband and I have three kids, two boys and a girl. My boys are 9 and 8 and my daughter will be 2 in march. We want another baby and will start trying in June of next year. We both know the deal, so there is no veiled hints or comments.
I would sit him down and seriously talk to him. Tell him you are not being accusatory, but that people change their minds all the time, and if he really woulod like another baby, then maybe you two can figure out when to have one.
I think I'm a little lost...but I'm not sure what "dh" stands for lol. I think it's the left over "ditzies" from when I was pregnant. Anywho, sometimes men may feel "time is running out". Women have had the same thought as well; "gotta have children before it's too late". This isn't true. The time will come when the time is right. My fiance and I wanted children and this was early into our relationship. We knew what we wanted.
We both kinda equally discussed the "b" word (baby). We wanted to try for a baby and if nothing turned up, then we wouldn't be disappointed. Secretly, we both really wanted a child, but we're both naturally stubborn and don't let our guards down because it might give our hopes up. I believe we both had the same feeling and through body language and in conversation, we didn't have to say a word lol.
I suppose trying so hard to conceive kept that from happening. Once we finally stopped trying so hard or thinking about it, that's when I got pregnant. It seemed as though everyone believed we planned it out. But it just so happens we conceived right on time in the ovulation window. I had about 4-6 days in that ovulation period. I didn't realize that until I went to the doctor and found out I was 4 weeks pregnant (I got pregnant quickly lol).
My fiance and I were just enjoying each other and not thinking about children. We had always been happy with it just being him and I. Our little girl is definitely a blessing and a plus to our lives. So all in all, the time has to be right to have a child. When the time is right, and all couples or at least one of the spouse will understand, you'll feel it in your heart and everything will seem like it's in place and is coming together.
I was a total tomboy in High School and here I am six years later engaged and with a baby girl. I never thought anyone would want a baby by me or even look my way, but it happened. Good things come to those who wait and I'm glad I waited because now I have a beautiful baby girl and a fiance who loves me for ME...that's all I could ever wish for. I wish you the best of luck and hope this helps you in your situation a little bit.
Quoting Johicks:
I think I'm a little lost...but I'm not sure what "dh" stands for lol. I think it's the left over "ditzies" from when I was pregnant. Anywho, sometimes men may feel "time is running out". Women have had the same thought as well; "gotta have children before it's too late". This isn't true. The time will come when the time is right. My fiance and I wanted children and this was early into our relationship. We knew what we wanted.
We both kinda equally discussed the "b" word (baby). We wanted to try for a baby and if nothing turned up, then we wouldn't be disappointed. Secretly, we both really wanted a child, but we're both naturally stubborn and don't let our guards down because it might give our hopes up. I believe we both had the same feeling and through body language and in conversation, we didn't have to say a word lol.
I suppose trying so hard to conceive kept that from happening. Once we finally stopped trying so hard or thinking about it, that's when I got pregnant. It seemed as though everyone believed we planned it out. But it just so happens we conceived right on time in the ovulation window. I had about 4-6 days in that ovulation period. I didn't realize that until I went to the doctor and found out I was 4 weeks pregnant (I got pregnant quickly lol).
My fiance and I were just enjoying each other and not thinking about children. We had always been happy with it just being him and I. Our little girl is definitely a blessing and a plus to our lives. So all in all, the time has to be right to have a child. When the time is right, and all couples or at least one of the spouse will understand, you'll feel it in your heart and everything will seem like it's in place and is coming together.
I was a total tomboy in High School and here I am six years later engaged and with a baby girl. I never thought anyone would want a baby by me or even look my way, but it happened. Good things come to those who wait and I'm glad I waited because now I have a beautiful baby girl and a fiance who loves me for ME...that's all I could ever wish for. I wish you the best of luck and hope this helps you in your situation a little bit.
speaking of people feeling like times running out. About two weeks ago when dh and I had our talk he did mention that once he hits 30 that he doesn't want anymore children period. he's 28 1/2 years old and I'm only 25 almost 26. I didn't think that was fair to say that because he turns 30 we should be done. I still have 2 years after he turns 30 before I do. I'm not saying I want a whole bunch of children we have 2 and 3 is our max. What if he takes us awhile before we get pregnant and he turns 30 does that mean we have to stop. I've tried to get him to see my point of veiw but he's dead set. Maybe in his mind he doesn't want to openly admit that he wants another baby he just hopes it will happen before he's 30 because he realizes times running out before he turns 30.
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on Nov. 23, 2009 at 8:59 AM