hes so f**** stubborn!!!

[ILoveSidney]

ive been really close with my exinlaws for the last 4 years, well i lived with them 2 years before my daughter was born and when they found out my babys dad(their son) was cheating on me the whole 2 years they urged me to move on, so i did. Now my fiance REFUSES to meet them because they are my exs parents....IMO he is part of my life, and my daughters life, and so are they so i think he should meet them but he wont..is that wrong? or is it wrong of me to ask him?! i mean they are ALWAYS asking about him and they consider me their daughter and i honestly dont even see them as my exs parents anymore, i see them as my family since they were there for me when my own parents werent and i really want him to meet them because they are a big part of my life..what do you think?! hes soo stubborn sometimes....

[ILoveSidney]

bump...anyone?!

[LuvmySFSGT]

Any guy I date is going to know that my In-Laws ARE my parents. I have no relationship with my birth parents so whoever I am with is going to have to accept them...(they are awesome I don't know anyone that wouldn't like them)...plus my FIL lives next door:)

But my situation is a whole different story anyways...it is going to take a very strong...secure and understanding man to be with me.

I think he should do it for YOU and for your child. They are your childs grandparents...and if he is going to step into the step father role he needs to grow the hell up.

[blindfoldedlady]

I think yes. I also grew up with a weird parental situation. My mom has always been close with my dad's parents, although they've been divorced for 20+ years. My stepdad knows them too, and stops over sometimes to talk to them. I think ALL the family should be involved, even if the 'father' is not. I still talk to my ex's family and take my daughter to see them, even though me and my ex can't really stand each other. It's not their fault. It's awesome that his family was there for you. I understand your man has doubts about it, but whatever. He's going to play the part of your child's father (or he already is), and what's he going to tell your baby when she's older? It's her family too, KWIM? I guess I just think everyone should get over it. It's about the baby, not the past. I'm lucky, and ALL of my family gets together for my daughter's special occasions. I have a biological dad, a stepdad, and an adopted dad, and they're all married. All the families will come together....obviously for special occasions (like my brother's wedding, or my daughter's birthday's, or whatnot), they don't 'hang out' or anything. But I love them all for it, and I'm glad they do it for my daughter.

[ILoveSidney]

thanks=) i said the same thing, i also believe if hes going to be in our lives, then he needs to know everybody else whos in our lives too but he said he wouldnt expect me to meet his daughters grandparents...well i mean they don get along,and they live in cali but thats not the point...point is, if he asked me i would do it.

Quoting LuvmySFSGT:

Any guy I date is going to know that my In-Laws ARE my parents. I have no relationship with my birth parents so whoever I am with is going to have to accept them...(they are awesome I don't know anyone that wouldn't like them)...plus my FIL lives next door:)

But my situation is a whole different story anyways...it is going to take a very strong...secure and understanding man to be with me.

I think he should do it for YOU and for your child. They are your childs grandparents...and if he is going to step into the step father role he needs to grow the hell up.