MIL Help!!!!

[ponylover86]

So I know this is going to be long but Im hoping that you ladies can bare it and help me out with some much needed advice.

SOOO......Lets get started with some background info. We used to live in an apartment until we found our current home. The rent here is about 300 more amonth plus utilities. Well we knew that we cant afford it on our own and knew that about every two years the my MIL moves in with us then with my SIL then with us well it was our turn for her to move in. So we found this house in June of this summer and called MIL and told her about it. She said that she would love to move in and that she wanted to check it out.SO cool she came in June and checked it out with us. She agreed to move in if I got rid of our 10 week old pitbull puppy because shes afraid of that type of dog and she has a sheltie and was afraid that it would attack it or something. Well we agreed got rid of the pup so that we could move in on July1st. MIL said that she would move in this month (November).So we've been living here since July 1st with VERY little money help from MIL but just enough to make every bill.

SO fast forward to this week.

She moved in about two weekends ago now. The only issue is that our boy dogs are unneutered (they are only 5 months) and hers is unspayed (shes 9 years old). SO we lock the boys in the sunroom at night so that her dog has the run of the entire upstairs and basement.Which is where my mother inlaws room is. Her dog gets locked in the basement which is the EXACT same space and room as up stairs during the day when shes at work.So the boys cant get to her.

So she comes home from somewhere yesterday and says that she had called my SIL(who hates her dog, because she smells bad all the time and is just annoying) to see if she would let her live with her until our lease is up in July when she plans on moving into her own place because its to cold in the basement(which it is, she has a space heater that makes it warm, but its still cold and we understand that)Well her dog has to be locked up in the basement cuz she's not fixed and we still have another month before the boys can get nuetered which we dont want to do, but will do if push comes to shove.  We think that she is going to the extreme of getting rid of her dog when its not necessary.We like the dog and would never make her get rid of the dog. Thats all her doing.

So we told her that dd has a room upstairs thats her playroom that we could move into and she could have our room upstairs. well thats not good enough. And its totally unfair that her dog has to stay down stairs and cant be apart of the family cuz our dogs get excited when they see her.Which we told her that its because they dont get to spend time together, eveytime my boys get even remotly close to her she shoes her dog to the basement as fast as she can. And we think that if they were able to spend time together supurvised that they would be fine.But she wont let that happen.So shes causing this. And that she has no choice but to stay down stairs allnight when she gets outta work because her dog whines when she leaves her to come uptairs.(SHE also says that her dog has doggy tears everyday when she comes home because shes so sad and depressed) Which one of the dogs eyes has some sort of teary/redness to it, looks like an infection of some type but I don't know what it is.(she refuse to take her to the vet and she has neglected her nails for allong time so they are really long and her excuse for that is that she has someone else clip them cuz she cant, well we take our dogs about once a month to petco and have our dogs nails clipped.We offered to pay to take her and have her groomed and everything but she called and canceled the appointment because she would get scared. But she wont let anyone touch her dog unless its her idea so the dog is long haired which is tangled, smells bad,has long nails......Sorta sounds neglected but yet she talks about her like shes the most important thing in the world.I DONT GET IT!Whatever! 

SO we told her that she can have one of the rooms upstairs and that we either need to get the boys fixed(when its time we still have about three weeks until they are old enough)Which we dont really want to do, or get her dog fixed. (Which she says that her poor dog has arthritus and is to old to get it done. Online says that they can be fixed at any age as long as they are in good health.)I think im going to call the vets around town and see what they say. 

SO heres the problem: If she quits paying us money we will have to move and lose this house.Which we see is her fault because she has had four months to get her dog fixed, tell us that she doesnt want a bedroom in the basement or whatever her issue is. We have been more then willing to help her be at home here and she told my SIL  this morning that she wants to move back in with them ASAP! SO I dont know what to say or do!

 

SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!

 

[RyleighsMoM3505]

You are gonna have to have a sit down chat with Mil.  If her financial support is what will keep you in the house and without it you will be out then I say get the boys fixed.  I know that the older a dog gets the harder the surgery and anesthesia is on them.  She has had the dog 9 years and fixing yours to eleviate the problem seems best.  You can always get another boy later that you won't have to neuter.  I will say she is being unreasonable but what Mil really is reasonable?  I'm just saying that if you NEED her there to make it by then you will have to do some bending and get them fixed.

[ponylover86]

 bump!