I'm so glad I don't work so I can take care of YOUR children!!*mostly a vent*
Ok...so I don't mind every once in a while helping someone out. It just seems lately there is always someone calling me to watch their child. I do watch my SILs daughter 2 days a week 9 hours a day. I think thats enough. But every once in awhile she'll call for something extra...fine, I like your kid no big deal just don;t take advantage of me. Its not like she pays me or anything.
Well she calls me last night to ask if I can watch her child(14mo) tomorrow. Ok thats fine, her mother who was going to watch her has a drs appointment.
Well now I just get an email from another sil that she has a drs appointment tomorrow...at the same time as her mother and can watch her son(2) too.
Fine...whatever I can watch him....but my daughter has CCD. Which Im not missing so they will need to come get their children from me at the CCd center...well they're both mad saying they don;t want to drive all the way over there...well then fine another damn babysitter.
But...heaven forbid I need a babysitter...its like pulling teeth, I mean what could I a SAHM possibly have to do with my time...aaarrggghh!!
Ok vent over.....do the rest of you SAHMs feel this way???
OH and when I was at my mils for a few months I kept getting my sister in laws kids put on me even though my mil was supposed to be watching them. I eventually told dh I am not watching her kids! And tell his mom to do it since she is supposed to be anyways. my dd being 14 months at the time and watchign a hyper 3 year old and 8 month old is not my ideal day.
Yep. I hate being taken advantage of. especially when they tell me they will be here at a certain time but then are 2-3 hours late
I don't really mind watching other peoples kids because I used to be in their boat. I didn't become a SAHM until 10 months ago, so I know what it is like to need to find a babysitter on short notice.
Now if I have plans to do something and someone needs me to watch their kid(s) I try to rearrange schedule to help them unless it is doctor's appointments or something for my own kids.
OMG! Yes thats the worst. Every morning I am supposed to watch my niece for about 30 minutes until her my mil can pick her up. Well if my sil runs late she doesn't come here...but no one lets me know. I set my alarm and get up nice and early....and she doesn't show. So inconsiderate!!
Quoting SuperPickle:
Yep. I hate being taken advantage of. especially when they tell me they will be here at a certain time but then are 2-3 hours late
Thats exactly what happens to me. I have 3 of my own kids...who aren't all in school. My mil watches bother of my sils kids (1yo and 2yo) for them so they can work. Thats really nice of her...they're her kids. But...she can't handle both kids at the same time. So I pick up the slack. but this is just assumed...although tomorrow Ill get both kids and my own...hello!!!
Quoting darcyk10:
OH and when I was at my mils for a few months I kept getting my sister in laws kids put on me even though my mil was supposed to be watching them. I eventually told dh I am not watching her kids! And tell his mom to do it since she is supposed to be anyways. my dd being 14 months at the time and watchign a hyper 3 year old and 8 month old is not my ideal day.
Well thats super nice of you...I guess Im not so nice:). I won't reschedule my life. I'm a sahm mom for a reason...and its not so I can babysit others kids....now if they paid, maybe that would be different.
Quoting jlm2676:
I don't really mind watching other peoples kids because I used to be in their boat. I didn't become a SAHM until 10 months ago, so I know what it is like to need to find a babysitter on short notice.
Now if I have plans to do something and someone needs me to watch their kid(s) I try to rearrange schedule to help them unless it is doctor's appointments or something for my own kids.
You could try being blunt.
"SIL, I am doing you a FAVOR; I am not your nanny. If you do not "feel like" doing "X" then hire a baby sitter."
"SIL, I have babysat your children 40 times this year; it would be appropriate for you to reciprocate."
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Or, you could sit down with each:
"I love little Suzy Q, and do not mind helping you out, but I do not appreciate you getting angry with me if the way I give my time is not convient to you; I did not appreciate your attitude over having to pick up Suzy Q from CCD the other day. I also expect you to reciprocate by babysitting my child when I need help. If this is not acceptable to you, perhaps you need to find someone else to help you."
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Or, stopp being their babysitter. "I'm sorry, I just have too much going on right now." You don't have to tell them what.
The week after they were an @$$ to you would be a good time to cut them off.
This sounds like something I would say, as nicely as possible!
Quoting happytexasCM: Or, you could sit down with each:"I love little Suzy Q, and do not mind helping you out, but I do not appreciate you getting angry with me if the way I give my time is not convient to you; I did not appreciate your attitude over having to pick up Suzy Q from CCD the other day. I also expect you to reciprocate by babysitting my child when I need help. If this is not acceptable to you, perhaps you need to find someone else to help you."
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- imthatgirl728
on Nov. 23, 2009 at 10:51 AM