Not sure what word I want to use, so cheating is the word I'm using. I feel that it it cheating for my bf to MASTERBATE to porn, or anything else for that matter, when I am perfectly willing in the next room. Watching porn, that's okay, do it all day every day IDC but masterbating to it, I feel is cheating WHEN I am in the next room. At least try to have sex with me first before you just go and get your rocks off by yourself. I guess my question really is: Does it bother you when your SO MASTERBATES (not just watches) porn when you are perfectly willing in the next room?
Mine doesn't watch/masterbate when I'm in the next room, he only does it when I'm at work for and am not coming home for a day or two. Sorry not much help, but here is a bump for you!
well, I am against porn on all levels, so my answer to your question would be yes- it is cheating to not only watch porn but also to masturbate when you would like to have sex with him
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This actually ruined my sisters marriage and they are now divorced. He never wanted to have sex with her but would masterbate to porn all day long. When she told him how she felt about it he was like OK. He continued to do it only in private and she caught him more than once. I can understand watching porn with his SO and then it going from there. I can understand a man getting his rocks off every once in a while, but not all the time. Especially when he has a more than willing partner in the next room. It could be he has a problem, there are many sex addicts that act this way. Not saying he is a sex addict but you never know. Sex addict doesn't always mean he has to have sex all the time but the constant porn and masterbation, could be a sign.
I didn't vote as the question in the title and the question on the poll aren't the same. Does it bother me? yes. Is it cheating? hell no!
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I said no but i should of put other. It would bother me only if sex was being denied completely.
I have done it myself, and sometimes you just want it quick and to the point, porn is a helper there! I can't fault anyone for a self quickie with or with out visual stimulation. :)
I am against masterbation,Ive been jumped many times here on cafemom for saying such but what do I care?
I will say although I hate it ,I do not consider it cheating!Hes cheated on you-with himself?
Mine doesnt do either. People can say what they need to to make themselves feel better, but I know for a fact DH doesnt. We just dont believe either is right in our marriage. We both used to and it caused problems. We sat down one night and decided as a couple to try and go one week without masturbating(this was after DH stopped watching porn). We would "save up" for when we could make love. And it was amazing. Ever since we dont do it at all. Not to mention the fact that we have since gone back to my old church, and DH is being baptised. So our Faith now has alot to do with that. If it bothers you talk to him about it. He may not even realize it hurts you. And ignore the women in here that will tell you to just deal, that all men do this. YOU know what is best for your marriage. PM me if you need to talk.
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on Nov. 23, 2009 at 10:58 AM