Would you leave your DH if......UPDATE****EDIT AGAIN***
He had low expectations in life. Let's say that he was happy living paycheck to paycheck on welfare just having enough to cover the bills and having nothing leftover for savings. Would you leave him? If you knew thats all life would hold for you and your kids? You love him and the kids love him but he just has that major flaw......would you leave him?
I was just asking. My DH has a very good job with the city. It pays well to start off but yes we're still struggling but in a few years we should be better off AND he's trying to join the Army. I do not work for several reasons, but we are happy. I was just asking because I wanted to know if women have reasons to leave their hubbies because of that. I agree with alot of you about how they are at least putting food in their families stomach and roofs over their head.
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I WOULD NOT LEAVE MY HUBBY!!! When I met him he barely had money and worked fast food! I supported him 2 whole years of our lives while he was a SAHD! So please stop thinking I'm selfish or whatnot...it was a damn question because someone mentioned it and I wondered what other people would think about it! My DH is good to me and my kids and that means alot more than money!
If that were the case, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.
I'm in that same boat right now and i kicked him out once before for that reasons and i filed for divorce but he said he changed and he did for all of 3 months! I'm about to go file for divorce again and kick him to the curb for good. My children and i deserve much better than just getting by! I fucking HATE BUMS!!
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NO, if you are not happy with the earning power in your marriage you can go out and improve yourself. Actually that is the new trend. Wives are now earning more than their hubbys at a greater rate than ever before.
I think I would be more concerned as to why he feels this way.... Living paycheck to paycheck isn't fun but maybe he is satisfied with the status quo for now? Anyone can start saving, maybe he feels like what little he has after bills and whatnot should be for fun or whatever. I wouldn't leave though, I'd try to show him my point of view and show him what we could be doing if we put this or that back...
Thats tough! Did you not know about his lack of ambition before you got married? I would not have married him if I had known. When DH and I were dating, he was pretty content in a dead-end job. I flat out told him that I would never marry him if he continued to work there (the hours were crappy and the pay was next to nothing). I didn't push it though, because we were just dating then. He eventually joined the military. He did it for himself (he always wanted to), but also so he could bring home a steady income and take care of our family. The hours can still be crappy at times though ;)
No. I promised to love him for better AND for worse. I would work to help him see what a great life we could give ourselves if we put our mind to it and I would pray for our marriage.
no, i think when a person has that outlook on life you need to encourage him to do better not leave him.. furthermore if he is a good dad and pays the bills then why ask for more.. why would you split up your family over something so small.. if you are unhappy with living paycheck to paycheck or want money in the saving acct maybe you can go to school to get a better job or get a second job and add to the income.
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- angelove8
on Nov. 23, 2009 at 11:09 AM