So I see on here all the time about women making posts about how many times they and their s/o have sex. I'm curious....after DD was born it was like my sex drive went out the window. So for the past 17 months, we've had sex once because i'm never in the mood. Is this normal?
It depended for me. I had horrible Post Partum Depression so we didn't have sex until DD#2 was 11 months old (when my hormones got normalized and I didn't have the depression issues anymore). This was a huge swich for me though because when I was not depression we had sex daily at the very least. It really is all about what is normal for you.
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I have read that it is normal. Between the hormone changes, lifestyle changes, and lack of sleep it makes sense. For some reason my has gone up.
I think every woman is different and they say it can take up to 2 years for your body to fully recover from carrying. I dont see why your hormones would change any sooner. My sex drive has been off since I had my DD and she is 3. However now we are expecting number two and I am horny all of the time. Are you breast feeding or overly stressed? The same things that used to turn me on dont so much now and so we have had to find some new ways to get the mood going.
Hope everything works out for you!
I've been stressed. It seems like we're always strapped for cash, and DH blames himself for it, but I dont' feel like adding student loans to the bills that we already have a hard enough time paying for. And now he's starting to get pissed because I'm never in the mood. Today though, we got into a fight abuot it, and it's been bugging me all day. When I told him I didn't know what my issue was, he told me that "I don't know is a fools answer" (he got that from my dad....thank you daddy) and accused me of not wanting him anymore and said that he's beginning to question my loyalty. I can see where he's coming from, really, I can. I'd be upset too if it was the other way around...but my god.
Quoting ZoasMama:
I think every woman is different and they say it can take up to 2 years for your body to fully recover from carrying. I dont see why your hormones would change any sooner. My sex drive has been off since I had my DD and she is 3. However now we are expecting number two and I am horny all of the time. Are you breast feeding or overly stressed? The same things that used to turn me on dont so much now and so we have had to find some new ways to get the mood going.
Hope everything works out for you!
I have a high sex drive and would do it everyday if I could. My dh though is happy with once a month. So since I am married to him, that is what I have to settle for. I think for a few months after my 3 kids I didn't want to at all, but by about 6 or 7 months I was right back on track.
Why don't you do it anyway? Maybe you just need some good sex to remind you what your missing. You know, awaken the beast lol. My sex drive is normal but sometimes I'm tired by the time my dd goes to bed. We don't have a lot of opportunities so even when I'm tired I do it anyway. And I never regret it :)
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