if you broke up with a guy you had been with for awhile because of something he did, how would u approach his family telling you to take him back?
(obviously not about me, but a friend....)
well, i am happily married so it would not apply. If i were single, i guess it would depend on what he did to make me break it off in the first place.
if they don't live nearby so you wouldn't run into them somehow, i'd ignore them. if they were pushy (repeated calls, emails, etc.) i'd tell them the split was irreparable and to leave me alone. no details. that could come back to haunt you. if they don't leave you alone then, enlist your ex (or better yet, your ex's new girlfriend if he has one) to tell them to butt out.
if all else fails, send them invites to your (pseudo)initiation into the convent.
Quoting LuvmySFSGT:
I would just say...
"I know you are trying to look out for him and do whatever necessary for him to be happy....but this is something that is between us and thats where I would like to keep it."
i'd go between this.. and just ignoring the entire family.
ok, i'll elaborate. My friend was engaged to my brother. He cheated on her, she broke of the engagement. They split.
My uncle in particular has e-mailed her on more than one occasion (as has his daughter) to say "he just made a mistake, you guys should work things out."
I was with her tonight when she got another e-mail from him, and I could tell it upset her. So I sent him an e-mail. I told him "I know you are trying to help, but HE made the mistake, the same mistake he has made more than once. By you and other family emailing her multiple times, you are just pissing her off."
His response? "she's a big girl. If she doesn't want me e-mailing her, she knows how to stop it."
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on Nov. 23, 2009 at 9:17 PM