i had a post yesterday about my SIL (who is 18 and in college and lookin for a job) OFFER to come to our house and clean and do dishes for 50 cents per hour.
she said its just something she likes to do (clean/organize) and its more money than she is making now.
well...we told her, that starting tomorrow, she can come tuesdays and fridays after class for at least 2 hours, but as long as she wants, and will get $20 per week.
now, my mom is all up in my business telling me i am lazy and i should "take pride in taking care of my family"
for starters, i am 13 weeks pregnant. for some reason, doing the dishes makes me SICK to my stomache. i get light headed and almost pass out and throw up.
also, i am high risk, and probably sonner than later i am gonna be on bedrest. so eventually i am gonna need someone here to do this stuff.
i will admit. YES I AM LAZY. but NOT like my mom thinks. i clean what i can and try to keep up, but its hard. seems no matter what i clean or how long i clean, within 5 min its messed up or dirty again cuz of aiden. so yes, the house has gotten a little cluttered. but she OFFERED to do this, and WANTS to.
am i wrong for wanting her to come? hubby wants her to come too. its his 19 yr old sister. he works all day and hates coming home to dishes so he wants her to come as well. would you want her or let her do it?
am i crazy? am i as lazy as my mom is telling me i am? i know to a certain extent i am...but not taking pride in taking care of my family?! wtf...
My eggo is preggo!
Just ignore her. It's your life, your money and your home. You get to choose what happens there.
I'm not pregnant and I would SOOOOO hire someone to come clean my house for $20 a week LOL.
It has nothing...okay maybe a little...to do with being lazy. I'm just tired all the time and get in "funks" where I don't want to do anything.
Don't worry about your mom, do what is best for you and the health of the baby!
I am not going to tell you if I would do it or not. This is not about anyone else but you and your family. Not your mom not us. Whatever works for you and if you are all happy with the situation so be it. I do think it's a good idea to get your son used to someone else being there and helping to care for him especially if you will most likely be on bed rest.
sounds like a 'win-win' situation...your sil is able to earn some pocket money doing something she enjoys and you get the help that you feel/know that you need...
Stay away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Mark Twain
I would have a maid simply because I don't like to clean. I am not lazy...I have 3 kids and a 60+ hour a week job. I just simply hate to clean. The kids have chores and I do what I have to so my kids aren't the ones who live in the "messy" house...but everyday there will be some stuff not put away, my lawn will have some weeds...grass will likely be a tad too long.
I would DEFINITELY pay someone $20 bucks a week...what a bargain.
Just remember the only one you have to answer to is YOU...if no one else likes it, they don't have to come over.
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on Nov. 23, 2009 at 10:11 PM