Who do you miss the most during the holidays? Let's share a sweet memory. PIOG
Who do you miss the most during the holidays? I miss several people, but none like my mom. She was my very best friend. She passed away April 22, 2008 and not a day goes by that I don't miss her.
Fall was her absolute favorite time of year. She loved the changing colors. When I was a little girl, she use to tell me that all the beautiful colors in the sky and on the trees at this time of year was God's paint brush - said always said he loved colors and "painted" these things for us to enjoy.
Let's share a warm memory of a loved one we miss right now.
I miss my grandma. She was like the glue that held our family together. After she passed a few years ago, everything has changed no one lives close anymore. Its like everything has been ruined. The holidays haven't been the same with out her around.
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people may think im weird but i miss my daddy.. He passed when i was 8, Im 35 now, I would love to see how he would be with his grandkids, he has 6 2 from me and 3 from my sis and 3 step by my bro.. I have had someone tell me how can ya miss something that u never really had and it does still hurt..
I miss my grandma... she was the only grandparent I ever had and she died 14 yrs ago. She was soul mate, kwim? I could tell her anything without judgment even if she didn't agree. She lived with us from the time I was 3 until she passed and I so miss her snuggles at night and my DD looks so much like her. There has yet to be anyone besides my parents that have impacted my character as much as she. Oh, now I wanna cry.
Quoting momofroni:
Who do you miss the most during the holidays? I miss several people, but none like my mom. She was my very best friend. She passed away April 22, 2008 and not a day goes by that I don't miss her.
Fall was her absolute favorite time of year. She loved the changing colors. When I was a little girl, she use to tell me that all the beautiful colors in the sky and on the trees at this time of year was God's paint brush - said always said he loved colors and "painted" these things for us to enjoy.
Let's share a warm memory of a loved one we miss right now.
Quoting momofhnd:
people may think im weird but i miss my daddy.. He passed when i was 8, Im 35 now, I would love to see how he would be with his grandkids, he has 6 2 from me and 3 from my sis and 3 step by my bro.. I have had someone tell me how can ya miss something that u never really had and it does still hurt..
Obviously whoever told you that you can't miss something you never really had has never walked in your shoes. I have two babies in heaven - I miss them terribly. I don't have memories of them - I only have the "what-could-have-beens". I'm sorry you are missing your daddy right now. I wish you peace and comfort.
I miss my Mom too. The hardest part for me is the fact that on Friday, I will be sending a cab to the nursing home to pick her and my father up, to come to my house for a belated Thanksgiving dinner. She's got dementia, and on most days, believes that I am her sister. In her defense, I DO look just like her sister did 40 years ago, however... in order to keep her "balanced", I have to then pretend that I AM her sister, and call her Dee... because if I call her "Mom" , she gets confused and very agitated.
I didn't see the dementia coming, and there are so very many things that I wish I could ask her about. She'd make these pecan praline cookie bars at Thanksgiving that were my absolute favorite. I've got all of her cookbooks, and there are 4 or 5 different recipes for praline bars, but not one of them tastes like I remember.
She used to make the best ever stuffing for turkey and chicken. I never asked her how to make it. I'll never have it again, because when I ask her she just stares at me. It's so damn hard. I go see her almost daily, but end up talking to other people's moms and grandmas, because it's just easier to accept them in their current state of dementia, than it is to accept my Mom in hers. Plus, she didn't particularly LIKE her sister 40 years ago, so the fact that she thinks I am her... well, you can see how THAT might make for a difficult visit.
The other person I miss this time of year is my Uncle Ed. He was my mom's big brother. We lived with him and his family for 6 months when I was 4, while the house we were going to be renting was being finished, and then when I was 16, he had built a house, for which he needed a renter, and he had a room in the basement. He was a journeyman electrician, and worked all over the country, and needed a "permanent address" so he built this house, he got mail there, and we'd then forward it on to where ever it was that he was working, if he'd be gone for more than a few days.
He was an avid hunter and fisherman. This time of year, I'd always get all glassy eyed, and say, "I don't know HOW you can look through that site on the gun, see those big brown eyes, and just shoot such a beautiful animal like that! The meat doesn't even taste that good!" And then he'd launch into a speech about how "deer don't have birth control" and that thinning the herd by hunting left the deer that did NOT get killed to be able to have enough food for the winter, and etc... etc... etc... and would I rather have them STARVING to death??? It was like he didn't even breath in while he was on his little tirade. It was approximately 45 minutes long, that speech. And then when he'd finish, all red in the face and worked up, I'd say, ever so sweetly, "I know, I just like to get your dander up!" And then he'd start to sputter! LOL OH it was great fun for me! And he was just such a generous guy. He had no real obligation to give me anything, or do anything for me, and when my oldest son was born, and his sperm donor ran like a scared little girl, Uncle Ed told me when Ben was maybe 6 months old, that he'd be happy to take him fishing, and get him into gun safety classes, and take him squirrel hunting, etc... Some of my son's happiest memories are of sitting in Ed's old long boat, eating cheese curds, and drowning worms. They hardly ever caught anything, but Ed always had a way of making a kid feel special. I miss him dearly. It's going to be 11 years on Jan. 7, that he's been gone.
There are two people on my list, the first one is my grandmother, She passed June 10,1997. The second is my Dad, he passed recently, October 3rd, 2009. The pain of my dad's loss is of course very recent, I miss him so much.
My Grandmother was an amazing women, she accomplished so much in her life. She lived just blocks from us when I was a kid and we did so much with her. She loved us so much and it showed in everything that she did for us and with us. When i was 11 years old she gave me a simple gold chain. I still have it, in fact i never take it off. It made me feel so grown up getting that necklace.
My Dad was a very complicated man who could be very hard to read sometimes. But he had a great since of humor and was lot of fun. He taught me everything i know about boats and fishing. I can't tell you how many hours we spent on the water. Even as an adult i used to love to curl up against my dad on the sofa. I always felt so secure doing that. When i was a kid Christmas morning we had to wait at the top of the steps until my dad turned on the tree lights to see what Santa brought. He loved to torture us, Dad insisted on taking a shower, getting dressed making a pot of coffee and maybe even drinking a cup before flipping that switch. We continued this tradition into adulthood for my sisters sake (she is mentally challanged) and then of course for daughter. We would all gather at the top of the steps even though most of us did not get a stocking anymore and wait. He loved that. I am going to miss that so much
I miss my friend Matt--a very dear family friend of 20 years. He fought cancer for 7 years, he never complained and was so brave. He passed away a year ago October 3, my dh and I got to be with him when he left this world. He was my kids godfather and he had a friend in everyone who met him. He was funny, compassionate and was such a great dad to his 2 kids (my godchildren).
We love you and miss you Matt!
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on Nov. 23, 2009 at 10:49 PM