Need advice!!! I dont know what to do kinda long...He kicked me out!!
So about a few weeks ago my "best friend" told my husband i cheated on him, but lets go back for a minute, when my friend and I first started hanging out shetold me that My husband and i arent ment to be together and we should just get a divorce. MY husband loves her son and she loved that, she has been wanting to get with him for awhile. Now back to the present my husband and i were trying to work things out and make things better but he kept fucking with my head! one day it would be i love u i wanna be with u and then the next day he wants me gone. That went on for about three weeks. And then he just kicked me out last saturday. He says that i wasnt a good wife, because i dont know how to cook and he couldnt come home to a hott meal everynight and he hated how i would go hang out with my "friends" during the day while he was at work. I just need some advice on what i should do to try and make my marriage work! ne thing would be helpful or just a simple hug from you guys would make me feel better. i love my husband with all my heart and i would never cheat on him. Please give me some advice on how to be a better wife!
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I don't really have any advice for you, but I do think that theres a lot more to this story.
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um, yeah. It seems a little rediculous that he would kick you out just because you can't cook well. If that is the reason, trust me, you're better off without him!
Quoting hautemama83:
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I don't really have any advice for you, but I do think that theres a lot more to this story.
well he hated the fact thati would go and hang out with my friends, and that i waned to go out every other weekend. He is the type of man that wants everything done for him like in the 50s or w.e. I didnt try hard enough i guess he said i was lazy because i sat on my ass all day taking care of our child. if u have ne questions or want more details because i really need some advice you can PM me.
Quoting ginger813:
um, yeah. It seems a little rediculous that he would kick you out just because you can't cook well. If that is the reason, trust me, you're better off without him!
Quoting hautemama83:
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I don't really have any advice for you, but I do think that theres a lot more to this story.
I agree, and it does seem like there is more to this than what you're saying... have you ever given him a reason not to trust you? And the so called best freind isn't even a freind if she is saying "lies" ... And obviously something is going on so you have the right to get to the bottom of it, for the sake of your kids as well....
~*Evelyn*~
No that "friend" isnt around in my life ne more but i dont know if shes in my husbands or not. Yes he kicked me and our son out. Yeah i didnt really go into alot of detail. He thinks im still a kid and i wanna party all the time. but everyother weekend if that i wanted to go out and hang out with my friends and he would get pissed becuase i didnt ask him but thats because we didnt have a babysitter. i would have loved it if he came, and plus he doesnt really like my friends. and during the day i would go and hang out with that certian "friend" and he would come home from work and sometimes i wouldnt be there but he knew who i was with. yes i fucked up too but i didnt cheat on him he says im lazy and and i dont take good care of him. He is an old spirit and he still thinks its the 50s wher the women does ebverything! i tried everything to keep him happy but i screwed up for not always being at home and for nagging and complaining, but hes done his share too. but i love him and if u wanna ask ne more questions u can pm me because i really need some tips on how to change and how to get him back!!! PLEASE!! i love him and i dont want it to end!
Did you cook dinner or no? How was the house when he would come home? How often did your friends come over? I don't think going out every other weekend was very wise if you saw your friends during the week. I go out maybe once a month if at all and see my friends maybe twice a month but they're always busy as am I. I cook dinner just about every night, I try to straighten the house everyday but it doesn't happen. I go to school full time as well. My husband works full time and goes to school.
If he doesn't want to work things out with you, then it is over, sadly. Can't force someone to. From your post sounds like he's making excuses and may have his sights on your supposed friend and looking for a way out.
Sounds like you are too young. If you saw your friends almost everyday and every other weekend too while your husband is at work and at home taking care of your child, then he has a right to be upset. A marriage is give and take. If he goes to work everyday so you can stay at home, what in the world is he getting out of the relationship? Is the house clean, does he have a nice dinner waiting on him? I highly doubt it. I am surprised though that he left you leave with his child. You can have fun when you are a wife and a mom, but it does not sound like you have any balance.
Quoting hholllyy426:Did you cook dinner or no? How was the house when he would come home? How often did your friends come over? I don't think going out every other weekend was very wise if you saw your friends during the week. I go out maybe once a month if at all and see my friends maybe twice a month but they're always busy as am I. I cook dinner just about every night, I try to straighten the house everyday but it doesn't happen. I go to school full time as well. My husband works full time and goes to school.
If he doesn't want to work things out with you, then it is over, sadly. Can't force someone to. From your post sounds like he's making excuses and may have his sights on your supposed friend and looking for a way out.
YEah your prolly right about him being with my friend thing, but thats were i fucked up i didnt realize i was doing something wrong because he never said ne thing about it it just hurst soo much...i wish i was wiser and shouldnt have acted like a kid and i should have spent more time with hin, the house was always picked up but sometimes i would slack on the laundry.
Quoting FL2AK:Sounds like you are too young. If you saw your friends almost everyday and every other weekend too while your husband is at work and at home taking care of your child, then he has a right to be upset. A marriage is give and take. If he goes to work everyday so you can stay at home, what in the world is he getting out of the relationship? Is the house clean, does he have a nice dinner waiting on him? I highly doubt it. I am surprised though that he left you leave with his child. You can have fun when you are a wife and a mom, but it does not sound like you have any balance.
For one thing i always had Caden with me unless i stayed out passed his bed time i always kept the house picked up but i dnt kno how to cook soo unless i made pancakes for dinner there ususally wasnt something for dinner, we usually ate andwiches or made a pizza, or grilled cheese and soup. the only thing i kinda slacked on was the laundry
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