have you ever wanted to tell someone something but u kno there would be no point to it cause it wouldnt change anything? and that in a way it would go against ur SO?
edit: ok so pretty much theres things i wanna say to my ex (my daughters dad) that i kno jsut arent appropriate, and theres no point cause its all done n over with weve both moved on....
prolly gonna edit some more here in a min
ok so heres a convo between my ex and i, i cut out begining of convo cause it wasnt relevant so we went from talking about what the new custody agreement will be when we go back to court in april and the convo like turned into talking bout our relationship nwo this happens everyonce and i while, i guess for a little info we split back this spring i got married in june and he got engaged in like august lol so weve both "moved on" and now im pregnant with my dh of course but anywyas theres thigns i wanna say to him that ikno i cant and i shouldnt and i dont
oh im A hes J
and hte .... is seperation of ims
Quote:2:05amJ -Well about watching Cecilia I'm just doing that until I move to tampa
2:05amA -i wanna take a minute to commend u on ur work ethic, cause u used to work so many doubles in row and u didnt bitch about it lol well that much
2:06amJ -What do u mean When I move to Tampa kates gonna watch her when I'm at work cause she's gonna work from home
2:07amA-im jsut sayin ur a hard worker n u didnt complain about it lol, im not tryin to diss d but its like he goes like two weeks without having a day off n its like the end of the world (but he does get less sleep than normal when i have to work? whats she do for work?
2:08amJ -Pottery or interior design over the computer Interior design consultant
2:08amA -well who knows if ull be in tampa by the time june rolls around tho cause ull have her for two months straight ur still agreeing to that right
2:09amJ -When
2:09amA -what do u mean when
2:09amJ -What monrhs
2:09amA -june and july and then ull get her for thanksgiving next year since u have her for christmas this year
2:11amJ -O
2:11amA -remember we talked aout this when we go back to court in april u keep her for the rest of april i get her for may then u get her for june and july and i plan on enrolling her in preschool so ill just need her back before she starts school in august, so u might get like 2 n half months depending on when it would start n then we alternate holidays
2:12amJ- That's gonna be tough if she's in school
2:12amA -and if she has like school breaks n stuff (when she gets older like spring n stuff) she can come visit
2:13amJ -Your lucky I'm not an asshole
2:13amA -what holidays to u want to alternate? thanksgiving christmas and easter....what u sd ud agree to that if i agreed not to go to the court for child support since i would primarily have her n i agreed
2:14amJ -We'll talk about it when it comes around
2:14amA -yeah ur not an asshole now lol....im jk
2:15amJ -I know
2:15amA -u kno somedays idk y but i still try to figure out why it took me leaving so many times for u change...or i should say this last time ....i kno theres no point in tryin to figure it out but somedays it jsut irritates me lol
2:18amJ -Well you should of listen to me....We wouldve been fine
2:19amA -what do u mean i was already married when u came around
2:19amJ -Well I'm just sayin we wouldve been fine if you just gave me time
2:19amA -i gave u 4 years
2:20amJ -Maybe I just needed that one last shot
2:21amJ -But whatever u gave up on me.....I worked my ass off for us
2:22amA -u worked but for what we never did anything
2:23amJ -Go look at the moon cause that's as close as were gonna ever be again....Hard work pays off in the long run
2:23amA- lol wtf is that supposed to mean
2:24amJ -When we look at it at the same time
2:24amA -first thing that popped in my head was when we first started dating n we were on the phone n were both looking at it lol
2:24amJ -O
2:26amA -idk ya live n ya learn right
2:26amJ -We wouldve had it all when I was making more money you didn't have patients.....But your right ......U learn
2:26amA -its like all u cared about was the money .........like when ud buy something then be a dick or tell me to go buy something whil u went off with ur friends
2:27amJ -That's how you live isn't it I had to be the provider.....U know u couldve had anything u wanted......I worked my ass off so you and Cecilia could
2:29amA -yeah but when i took over when u got temp laid off it didnt even mean anything to u that i immediately went out n got a second job, i was willing to work at hooters(where ive always badmouthed) just so wed be able to pay bills
2:29amJ -I did appreciate ot......A month compared to 4 Years of busting my ass
2:30amA -im just saying i tried too
2:31amJ -Doubles everyday maybe never even coming home staying for the overnight ahift
2:31amA -i remember
2:31amJ -Triples
2:31amA -thats y cece didnt even kno u that well at 3months old cause u worked so much
2:31amJ -But it was all for nothing now
2:31amA -yup
2:32amJ -And I'm proud of that cause I'm a hard working daddy that supported a family
2:33amA -yeah financially not emotionally (where it was asked)
2:33amJ -I was drained.......You expected alot from me
2:34amA -not really .....i just expected a few mins outta ur day of ur attention
2:35amJ -I was a hard workin young adult not experienced with how to handle all the pressure of having a family.....Didn't know how to handle it all....It was alot on my plate for 19
2:36amA --yeah apparently not just like promising to marry me god idk how many times
2:36amJ- You kept proving me that u weren't marriage material
2:36amA -i kno i was pregnant on ur 21st birthday u didnt even get to celebrate it like you should of cuase u took the time off to come see me for my 3d ultrasound......whatever thats bullshit ......i was the perfect little housewife until u didnt appreciate it so i gave up trying ......i cooked i cleaned i cared for the baby i would rub whatever hurt n yet i didnt do anything all day
2:38amJ -That's what your supposed to do.....U didn't work u took care of our daughter
2:38amA -yeah but u didnt notice
2:39amJ -Ok sure.....Your right I would fall asleep .....When I got home
2:39amA -i kno n you know what i GREATLY appreciate htat i had the ability to stay homoe with her that meant more than ull ever kno and yes because of u i had that opportunity
2:39amJ- But anyways I'm goin to bed we'll talk later .....Love you
2:40amA -n im not talkin abotu when ud fall asleep im talkin about what ud say ......yd u jsut say that
2:41amJ - Ok we'll talk later .....I always will.... Bye a
2:41amA -alright good night....bye
2:42amJ -Bye
wow nobody? i kno the post doesnt say much... but idk im just crying for no reason well kinda have reason but idk
No, sorry. I usually tell people what I think, unless it's the person with their name on my paycheck....I sure as hell don't want to lose my job now, lol. I'm pretty opinionated, and I inherited a big mouth from both sides of the family. :)
Okay...you split in Spring...which would be like April/May? And Then you got married to someone else in June (and you are now pregnant) and he got engaged in August?
It seems like neither of you really took any time to deal with the issues at hand before you hopped to the next person.
You need to just let it go. Only talk about your child and things relating to her and stop dwelling on the fact that he didn't change for you. Maybe his new woman is a better match for him and makes him want to be a better person...does it really matter? Him being a better person only benefits your child. I would hope that you feel that your now husband is a better match for you...right?
well i guess it was actually before spring cause itw as like march i guess, and yeah i kno we both moved on kinda fast, i guess i forgot to add he started dating hte girl in july and they were engaged a month later...... and up until tonight all weve talked about is our daughter for a while now we've had random convos (a few months ago) when he says something i say something but its nothing important or that anythings gonna come out of, weve both agreed that whats happened has happened and theres not turning back now.... and he changed before he met her, he changed when he found how i was with my now dh and he did everything he possibly could to the point of offering to buy me some stupid big ring and marry him (after i was already married) (and to buy me the car ive always wanted) he tried to get me to go get an annulment and come back to him.... eventually when i moved 700 miles away he moved on.... and now to be completely honest my husband is not a better match for me and dh and i both agree we were stupid for getting married so fast, we fight alot and i was getttin ready to leave when i found out i was pregnant..... and my dds dad always been a good person to and for our daughter and thats why im comfortable with him having her for longer lengths of time and i kno he will always look out for her best interest.... i wasnt saying hes a better person now i was just refering to how he woke up n realized everything after i left him this last time, we broke up a total of 7 times in 4 1/2 years not all my doing but the last two times the 6th i moved out n stayed with one of my friends since her hubby was out to sea and he convinced me that he had changed and i went back n it stayed chagned for a while n went right back to where it was n so the last time i left i figured it was just gonna be the same but this time he acutally realized and i could tell but it was too late...... idk what else to say right now
Quoting LuvmySFSGT:Okay...you split in Spring...which would be like April/May? And Then you got married to someone else in June (and you are now pregnant) and he got engaged in August?
It seems like neither of you really took any time to deal with the issues at hand before you hopped to the next person.
You need to just let it go. Only talk about your child and things relating to her and stop dwelling on the fact that he didn't change for you. Maybe his new woman is a better match for him and makes him want to be a better person...does it really matter? Him being a better person only benefits your child. I would hope that you feel that your now husband is a better match for you...right?
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