if you DON'T talk to your mil whats your thoughts on this?

[ErikaM27]

If you don't talk to your mil what would happen if something were to happen to her? Do you think what you would do? Would you visit her at the hospital if she one day ended up there? what if she passes away would you go to her funeral? I haven't spoken to my mil going on 6 yrs she said something very bad and i found it best not to have her in my life or our kids.. No one in dh's family cares for us. We raised my sil so there have been lots of hate and rumors too.She talks bad about me all the time too. Dh doesn't talk to his mother either only when he needs to for whatever reason...what are your thoughts?

[lil_Army_Wife05]

I really do not talk to my MIL that much..Have good reasons too.

But if she were to be in the hospital yes I would go. If she were to die yes I would go to her funeral. I don't hate her that much. Plus this is still my husband mother and he does love her. Even though he doesnt call his parents all that much.

[Chrystal_A]

Id love to not TALK to my mil but Im stuck with it.

My hubs could see her alone in the hospital as my kids do not visit hospitals they are germ infested.His dad had staph-they swear it wasnt staph and I didnt let my kids go!On ICU I might go.Funeral Ill attend and dance on the inside!

[mommam58122]

i talk to my mil i have lived with my mil she has been in the hospital for surgerys and life threatening stuff i never went to see her why because she doesnt like to have visitors at the hospital when she is there she wants to just rest and recover now my sfil and bil go and see her but she didnt want me up there 

[ErikaM27]

I just don't see a point for me to go it's almost like 2 faced what would everyone think I can imagine people would assume I'm there to see her dead but I couldn't or didn't talk to her when she was alive. That's what people would think if they'd see me.

[HLoeffler08]

Long story short..

My mil said that my husband wasnt' the father of our child. so we haven't talked to her. Now she is in texas (we are in alabama) and her liver is failing. From all the drinking. i feel really bad but dont' regret not talking to her. We are discussing taking our son to see her. Don't know if we are yet just considering it.

[DestaniesMama]

My DH and I went about  a year without talking to his mother because of some choices she decided to make about my dd. But I would never keep my child from her grandparents unless they are harming her. They are her family and its her choice whether she has anything to do with them or not. I would go see my MIL if I wasn't talking to her and she was in the hospital. You never know how life is going to turn out and that may be the last time you have any type of contact with her. Family is the most important thing in life, even if some of them have issues!

[WLNL0507]

I would love to be able to speak with my MIL. There is a HUGE language barrier. I mean I try, but, I would love to REALLY get to know her.  She lives overseas too. But, I would be there for her in a heartbeat if needed. And, my own mother is basically nonexistant (her choice). 

[DestaniesMama]

Quoting ErikaM27:

I just don't see a point for me to go it's almost like 2 faced what would everyone think I can imagine people would assume I'm there to see her dead but I couldn't or didn't talk to her when she was alive. That's what people would think if they'd see me.

Dont worry about what people think. You have something telling you to go see her. If you feel thats whats right, then screw everyone else! Do what feels right to you!

[fallnangel3]

If she were in the hospital, nope.  I'd drop the kids off at my parents and then drive Dh up there and run errands or sit in the truck while he went up to see her (that is IF he even wanted to go and see her).  If she died I would go to the funeral, but that is only because it would be expected of me.

[inspain]

We don't talk to either MIL or FIL anymore.  I don't care.  After all they've done - and haven't done - whatever happens to them doesn't matter to me.  I only care what my husband wants to do about it.  If either one dies and he wants to go to the funeral, that's fine, I'll go.  If he doesn't wish to go, I won't go.  They've both been in the hospital and have made no effort to tell anyone until after and only to say, "Well, it's not as if anyone cared."  I don't deal with martyrs.  They're emotional terrorists and I don't have the time for that nonsense.   You get what you give in this life.