would you go knowing you are not wanted

[momwith2monkeys]

My husband and I have this discussion  every Thanksgiving and Christmas. Going to his brother house. there for a while we would go every Thanksgiving and Christmas and even though i felt unwelcome i went anyways because it was his brother house.

Until one time when his brother bitch of a wife called me one day and she told me that her husband couldn't stand me and only tolerated me because of David (my husband). i found out later that she was pissed off at her husband at the time but still that doesn't mean it wasn't true. 

well after that was said i decided i wasn't going to spend another Holiday at there house. Every time we go my husband is there bullshitting with his brother, my kids are playing and my Sister in law family is there talking amongst each other and i am just there, no one say a damn word to me, i try to talk and i am ignored because i know none of the motherfucker like me. 

well once again my husband comes home from work last night saying they want us to come to there house and i am like more like they want you to come and before he finished the sentence i say NO,i have done told you i am not going to there house, but he didn't say anything else about but i could tell he wanted to say something that he wants to go. i just know he is going to bring it up again. He don't like his brother wife any more than i do because is a mega bitch and she is one of them bitches who thinks she shit don't stink, but in reality she didn't have shit before she met my husband brother. Anyway he deals with her because of his brother. i don't like her either but i have always try to be friendly with her.

anyways would you go?

[-xoxo-]

No I wouldn't go, and to be honest with you, your dh shouldn't be going either. If anyone on my dh's side of the family put me down, he'd have his foot so far up in their asses, it wouldn't even be funny. 

[TheresaMomof9]

I wouldn't go. Have your own Thanksgiving. If dh wants to drop by his brother's house in the evening just to see him, alone, after you have done your thing as a family, let him. But that house is toxic. Stay away. :)

{{hugs}}

T.

[Ktkazblake]

I wouldn't, I would just stay home and tell dh he can take the kids if he wants to. Why go when you would have to deal with all that bs I feel like that too when we go visit my dh's family so I just stopped going, I will every once in a while but not all the time

[eviesmom453]

Fuck no, I wouldn't! If I were you i'd stay home...

[Kays_Mama06]

This is one of situations that you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. You'll look like the super possessive wife if you keep your DH or you'll sit there with boredom. its a tough call. Have they told you why they don't like you?

[kenziedawnmom]

I would not go any where i felt uncomfortable and unwanted, i mean i just wouldn't its the holidays(or anyother day) and you shouldn't have to sit and feel like that i think so no i wouldn't go.

[momwith2monkeys]

Quoting Kays_Mama06:

This is one of situations that you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. You'll look like the super possessive wife if you keep your DH or you'll sit there with boredom. its a tough call. Have they told you why they don't like you?

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no they just don't like me never had. i been with my husband for 9 years and my husband brother and his wife have been together around 6 years. and she has never liked me, she is just some self absorbed bitch who thinks she is better than everyone, she has never like my husband either but he has always brushed it off.

i used to sit there and after a couple of hours i would say hay babe why don't  we head back home you know we had that thing we needed to do, or something like that. but i am just so tired of sitting there feeling unwelcomed.

[momwith2monkeys]

Quoting -xoxo-:

No I wouldn't go, and to be honest with you, your dh shouldn't be going either. If anyone on my dh's side of the family put me down, he'd have his foot so far up in their asses, it wouldn't even be funny. 

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the only reason for my husband wanting to go is because his 2 brothers is all he has left, he don't have anything to do with the sisters and the his mom and dad have died. but like i told my husband before i don't have any family around here and i am content with sitting at the house having our own Thanksgiving dinner, he can go if he wants to but i am staying home.

[mommasbabies77]

Have you considered talking to your BIL? If you have a problem with him or he has with you, you first should know it and then maybe you could work on it? Just saying no I'm not going is only going to build up more resentment. Sometimes, we have to be adult-like(it so sucks), and just confront the problem and then go from there. Anyway, that's what I'd do. Gl

[momwith2monkeys]

Quoting mommasbabies77:

Have you considered talking to your BIL? If you have a problem with him or he has with you, you first should know it and then maybe you could work on it? Just saying no I'm not going is only going to build up more resentment. Sometimes, we have to be adult-like(it so sucks), and just confront the problem and then go from there. Anyway, that's what I'd do. Gl

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the BIL has really never like me either. when my hasband and i first got together his brother actually broke us up and when we got back together and decided to work through things my threaten my husband.That was 9 year ago he isn't as forthcomming as he used to be about not liking me now. when his wife said those things to me i told my husband and he mentioned it  to his brother and his brother was suppose to have asked his wife and denied saying any of it and and of course he believe her and thought i just lied.

why he never like me i don't know, i never knew him or any of his family before i met my husband, i didn't even live in the same state i met my husband within a couple of week after moving to florida.