I'm concerned about my 2 year old. Detailed. Please let me know your opinions

[chrissy12507]

My oldest son, Tristan will be 3 in January. I guess I have had some concern for awhile with him, but I have been in denial. My son is extremely smart. He was mobile very early. As a baby he was very independent. He was walking by 8 months; running by 10 and needless to say we had to babyproof very early. He was never one that liked to be held. He wanted to be on his own from and early age and discover new things. From the time he was mobile to this day, Tristan has a ton of energy. He can be very loud and animated at times as well. At 18 months Tristan wasn't talking at all. I brought this up to his pediatrician. They wanted to see how he was progressing by 21 months to know whether we should have him evaluated. Well, by 21 months he had made progress. He was saying small words, repeating some, and even counting to three. I was pretty pleased. By the time Tristan turned 2, he could count to 20. We had a new baby in July when Tristan was 2.5 and Tristan didn't seem to regress at all. We have been very careful to still give him the same amount of time and attention as before. Since this time, his love of numbers has increased. Tristan, now at 34 months can count to about 135 and can recognize any number that high as well. He counts everything and can point numbers out anywhere. Tristan has a very good memory. He can sing songs, recite books, knows shapes and letters. His speech is a little hard to understand, but it is typical of a two year old. My concern is that he can count to 135 and he can't sit and have a conversation with me. He speaks in small sentences, but doesn't use pronowns or ask questions. He will say, "Hi mommy" and I will say, "Hi, Tristan, how are you?". Instead of him answering he will say, "Hi Tristan, how are you?". He interacts with other children, but in an awkward way. For instance if my neice is sitting in a chair eating he will try to sit behind her in the same chair or eat off her plate and although she expresses aggravation, Tristan will think it's a game, funny and won't sense her being upset. If other kids his age want to play with toys he will play along but maybe line the toys up instead and count them. He has always had a love for classical music. Music is one thing that has always seemed to keep him calm. When I give him a crayon to color with, he sometimes would rather try to eat the crayon instead of color with it. He gets aggravated at times and throws fits and screams. (I'm sure this is typical of two year olds as well). I just feel that he gets frustrated that he can't communicate the way we can though. Another concern is sometimes he will not make eye contact and seem to respond when others talk to him. Some people say, "He doesn't listen". But as his mother, I don't think he is intentionally being bad and disobedient. My parents are a little overwhelmed to watch him because he gets a little over-stimulated when he is out of his daily routine. Other little things are that he is always on the go, doesn't sit still and very hyper. Am I looking into this too much? Is this typical toddler behavior or do you think I need to get him evaluated? I was reading up on Aspergers Syndrome and Giftedness and he seems to have some traits of each. Please let me know if these are warning signs or normal behavior. Thanks in advance.

[Monica84]

idk but heres a bump for ya.

[MandyOs]

I don't know, so bump.

[twinmamaof3]

hmm I dont know.  I think he is a very smart little boy!  I would ring it up to the ped.  my oldest is three (june 2006) he ca count to 6 now!  (he is speech delayed, he goes to school mon thru thurs) he loves cars, well osessed with them actually. lol.  I hope everything turns out fine!  BTW my youngest sons name is Tristan! 

[JakeandEmmasMom]

I don't honestly know if those are warning signs or not.  I'm not reading anything here that jumps out at me that would make me concerned, but I don't really know.  Here's a bump for you though.

[momsbabies]

Trust your mommy instincts.  Couldn't hurt anything to get him some help.  Early intervention is key, if your having doubts you should definitely follow through.

[amoret1234]

not to sure, but here is a bump for you! 

[KRISTAL_WILDER]

Sounds like your asking if he sounds autistic? I don't know much about autism so here is a bump for ya.

[mysti26]

take him back to your ped. explain your concerns. If they do not validate your concerns tak him to a different ped. I did that with my son and now things are getting done

[ArmyWife151]

i'm certainly no expert but i worked at a daycare/preschool for special needs and non-special needs children. to me it sounds like there are definately some red flags. i saw many children with asperger's, autism, down syndrome, weaver's syndrome, etc. like i said i'm no expert and don't have a degree so i dont want to sound like a know it all and i even may be wrong. but from my understanding asperger's is a mild form and one of the many types of autism. and usually a higher functioning type. it does to me sound like he has some traits of the children with aspergers and autism that i have seen. but i also think that unless it is a severe case most doctors will not diagnose children with such conditions until age 5. but again i may be wrong. but as a mother..if  i was concerned i would have him evaluated. hope this helps.

[momsbabies]

What I mean by get him some help is to get him evaluated.

Quoting momsbabies:

Trust your mommy instincts.  Couldn't hurt anything to get him some help.  Early intervention is key, if your having doubts you should definitely follow through.