Being BRUTALLY honest here

[USMCBride08]

 k =]

Im a spoiled brat. I grew up in the suburbs. Lived in a 6 bedroom, 4 bathroom house with a heated pool/hot tub. Parents drive a mini cooper, and a sequoia. I grew up living the good like. at 18, my parents bought me a used jetta. I got whatever i wanted. I worked my ass off in school and also worked,but usually got what i wanted. Had a cell phone by 15. Ipod, spur of the moment trips to disney or bush gardens. THe whole 9 yards. My mom is a nurse and my dad works for the FBI. THATS how good i had it

Now. im 20 years old, no college degree, married to a marine, and have a 10 month old baby. My life is NOTHING like it was. And yes. I pout and whine because im not used to it. Im doing MUCH better now than i was. I've learned how to save money, and at the end of the month we have about a paycheck in the accounts.

BUT we're probably going to save it for a car. and im totally ticked about that. I want my son to have a life like it did. I want to get him tons of toys for christmas and his bday *14 days apart oh my gosh he's almost a year!* Sorry. got off track. But i want to be able to buy him tons and tons and tons. Can i? Nope. I want to be able to buy him new stuff. Guess what. the only thing new that WE'VE bought is his carseat. EVERYTHING else is used. Crib, stroller, most his wardrobe. My parents have bought him some stuff, but still.

I want to buy him all the cute clothes. But i cant. The shirt i want to buy him was 16. And i waited for it to go on clearance but.... now they only have 6-9 months left. And my chunk is 12-18 months. So it was pointless. I can only buy him new clothes when there is a sale at babies r us. Because Im in LOVE with carters. I admit it. They are so nice and cute and last longer than walmart clothes.

I want to buy whatever I want. But i cant. I have to watch my $$ going away before i can even see it.

UGH. So yes. Im a really big brat. And i know it and im working on it. But living the way i did and then jumping right into where im at now is a big adjustment. and its hard. I do my best, but im not perfect. im just grateful my husband understands why i am the way i am, and STILL loves me.

Now. feel free to bash. you cant say anything worse than i already say to myself

[UxorQuodMatris]

Didn't you say you're going back to school or something? That's making a big step towards the life you want.

[gardenchic]

live and learn, that is what it is all about....

[USMCBride08]

im in the process =] but its hard because i lost my scholarship and need to take 12 credits to earn it back and the school i go to is 70 miles away LOL

AND dh is set to pcs in dec 2011 which means i wont be done yet!!

but im trying =] i love school lol

Quoting UxorQuodMatris:

Didn't you say you're going back to school or something? That's making a big step towards the life you want.

[mom_of_2_in_ny]

 Atleast your being honest with yourself.  It is a big adjustment. Your entitled to vent, but it seems to me, that at the end of the day, you do know what is best for you, hubby and child, and that is what matters most. Everyone wants their children to have, it's natural to feel that way, with that being said, do you  really want to spoil your child the same way you were? Had your parents treated you differently, (meaning the "she gets what she wants"mentality) then it wouldn't be such a big adjustment for you, know what I mean?

[Tia_B]

Well we were poor most of my life. But I was still a spoiled little brat and guess what? Just like you, when I moved out and had a baby (not even in that order lol) it sure was a wake up call for me too!! My exhusband could NOT STAND how spoiled I was (think Jessica Simpson leaving her clothes everywhere). My current husband even says I am spoiled. My mommy would do anything for me. Even if it meant she would go broke doing it. (Not that I would let her).

But, I know what you mean. The real world sucks lol. I have gotten waaay better at not getting my way all the time... but its been over 10 years since I moved away from home so it took some time lol. But I have improved a lot. It comes with age and experience. I still have a long way to go.

[AJmum]

 I'm not going to bash, I grew up the same way. I met my DH and my parents gave us a apartment rent free. Something in our heads we wanted to be on our own. So we did, We got evicted twice. It was a HUGE adjustment. We had many small xmas's. But things got better, we learned how to save, we learned how to work hard, and juggle it all. I feel bad sometimes because my son has such a better life than my daughter did. But you live you learn and you make your own way. I think your first step is going back to school. Your parents had that life because they were educated. If you want that life you need to be.

[mommiecharlie]

Well, just being brutally honest here....you should about all the crap you are complaining about before you had a child. Maybe you should of gotten an education with a good paying career before getting married or having a kid. Yes you can whine and pout all you want but obviously you should of thought about this before you went and got married and had a kid.

Just being brutally hones here!

[siren_sexy]

how do i go about capturing a marine?

[USMCBride08]

i worked for it all, in a way. I had to get all a's and b's AND take advanced classes in school LOL i mean, most kids flake in their senior year and i was busy taking anatomy and physiology, physics and precalc.

I want to be able to do that for my son. I mean, he gets good grades, i give what he wants... like a reward system. i just dont want him to make the same stupid mistakes I made in life

Quoting mom_of_2_in_ny:

 Atleast your being honest with yourself.  It is a big adjustment. Your entitled to vent, but it seems to me, that at the end of the day, you do know what is best for you, hubby and child, and that is what matters most. Everyone wants their children to have, it's natural to feel that way, with that being said, do you  really want to spoil your child the same way you were? Had your parents treated you differently, (meaning the "she gets what she wants"mentality) then it wouldn't be such a big adjustment for you, know what I mean?

[SeattleRainn]

Having wealth isnt about money, its about having a happy well balanced family.

Be happy for what you DO have rather than what you DONT. And if you cant, then go pay someone else to raise your child 8 hours a day so you can stand there and admire your flat screen TV and pat yourself on the back for being "sucsessful"