I don't want my kids to get taken away...(long)

[LuvinMyBoynGirl]

 I need help! IDK what to do. Let me just start off with my background:

when I was 5 my mom got a bf (my bros dad) and he abused me, I was sexually, mentally, physically abused until I was 14, and ran away to live with my grandma (R.I.P). I met my bf when I was 16, we were dating, for years, and I had alexis in August of 06. I was 19. I would never ever ever ever hit my children. EVER I do NOT believe in hitting, not at all.

well about 6 months ago, my 3yo alexis started acting kind of almost depressed. Cries constantly, nothing we do or say makes her happy. NOTHING. HERE is the post I made a few weeks ago. so I took her to her pediatrician yesterday, who reffered us to a pediatric behavioral therapist, to try to get to the bottom of things. Well last night my mom took alexis for the night, to try to see if maybe she would open up to her grandma. This morning when my mom dropped alexis off, she took me to the side, and said the only thing alexis told her was that I hit her in the face and it hurt really bad.

IDK what to do, she has an appt with the counselor next week, and I don't want her to tell this lady that, I know CPS would be called here. I have nothing to hide, because I didn't do anything. but I know its kind of weird for a 3 year old to just make something like that up.

I really don't know what to do.. any advice???????

[LuvinMyBoynGirl]

 I'm like balling right now! I would never ever hurt my kids, ever. it kills me that she told somebody that. What if she told the wrong person? I like can't stop crying, I'm freaking out, hyperventilating...

[Jeiao]

Have you ever asked her why she said that? 

[LuvinMyBoynGirl]

No my mom just brought her home about an hour ago, now she's taking a nap in her room

Quoting Jeiao:

Have you ever asked her why she said that? 

[Susan262]

OK this is a bad thing to say but I say that is a serious red flag.  Do you know anyone that could be abusing your child?  Kids who are abused sometimes make things up to protect the person who is abusing them. 

[ashley22ky]

3 year olds get confused and say untrue things sometimes. I can ask my 4 year old a question and he'll say "no", then 30 seconds later I'll ask him the same question and he'll say "yes". They just don't understand or get confused easy. The behavioral therapist knows that. Not that she won't take it serious or want to investigate, but if you did nothing wrong, it'll prove itself. Don't worry about it too much. Just don't mention it to your daughter or grill her about it because it may make things worse.

[A.J.s_mommy]

Maybe she didnt say it?  I really dont know.  They do say that children that young dont make things up like that.  If she tells the counselor that...im sure she will try to dig a little deeper, and not just leave it at that one sentence.  I dont have any advice though.

[QuickMomma]

Maybe try having a talk with her.Ask her why she said that but be calm about it.Dont be pushy,dont get upset or anything like that.Also let her know you care about her and would like to know why she has been behaving like this.

[LuvinMyBoynGirl]

I can't think of anyone. I mean I'm so protective of her, I don't let her own father give her baths, ya know. And she just barely started going to a babysitter last week, who is a close friend of our family, but she's been seeming sad for months now.

Quoting Susan262:

OK this is a bad thing to say but I say that is a serious red flag.  Do you know anyone that could be abusing your child?  Kids who are abused sometimes make things up to protect the person who is abusing them. 

[JasonsMom2007]

I think I would speak to the therapist before she does.  Tell her what she said and how much it bothers you since it is not true.  Ask her for some advice and see if she has any clue where it is coming from.  I think if you tell her about this BEFORE your daughter she will be less likely to accept it as fact.

As far as CPS, if they can't prove it (and since it's not true they won't be able to) they cannot take your child from you.

[JordansMama2003]

I mean it sucks that she said that but I wouldn't make a huge deal over it. Especially if you know you haven't. Kids say things ALL the time that aren't true. People that work with children, CPS, therapist, teachers, etc. know this. They know what to look for and wont just take the words of a three year old.