Do you put your children first?

[greenie63]

What I mean is priority wise. I would sacrifice anything for my children. My needs and my SO's always comes after my childrens needs. Do any of you put your partner before your children? Realistically a relationship may not last but your child(ren) are forever. It always baffels me when I see or hear someone not stating their children come first.

[ymom3]

My son comes before anybody and anything!! 

[threepeanutsmom]

I ALWAYS PUT MY KIDS FIRST NO MATTER WHAT THE FUNNY THING IS ALOT OF PEOPLE TOLD ME THAT BY DOING THAT ITS GOING TO BE MY DOWN FALL I GUESS I'LL TAKE THAT RISK =)

[scooterpooter]

my kids come b4 anyone else

[mommasbabies77]

This is something I learned in my outpatient program at the hospital. It sounds good to that you put your children before yourself or even your partner for that matter. And, in the case of the last food on earth or they were standing in front of a moving train or something..I would sacrifice my life over my child's. As far as everyday life, I care for my children and see to their needs but I also and will continue to take care of myself and will do so every single day. For one reason, I want to remain healthy and I can't do that by always putting myself last. I want my children to grow up knowing how to take care of themselves and that it is okay to do so. Children learn by example. It's not selfish for me to take time for myself and it's not selfish to treat myself to something nice just because I deserve it. And if someone wants to call it selfish, so be it..it's a very healthy selfish.

When you are on a plane, they tell you if they have to drop the oxygen masks to always always put yours on first before putting on your child's. Why? Because if you aren't breathing and healthy, you sure as heck cannot properly take care of your child. So yea, my kids are a big priority in my life but I am learning how to make myself one too.

[AquarianPath]

While my marriage is healthy and stable, it comes first before anything.

If my marriage becomes unhealthy and unstable, then my children's well being become first priority.

If a marriage is healthy and thriving, the family unit is healthy and thriving. Thus the children are cared for and loved.

If a marriage is unhealthy, the family unit becomes unhealthy and begins to become unstable. It has worked for us so far.

That doesn't mean, that in a life and death situation we would choose each other. My husband and I are in full agreement that if we had to save only a few people in the event of a fire or any emergency, our children's lives take priority. We are BOTH in agreement and fully expect it of each other.

ETA:

In the case of food, the kids get dished up first because physiologically their stomachs are smaller, they get hungry and need to be fed first. My husband and I can wait until the children are dished up and munching on their food.

When it comes to evening rituals, I'm going to put the kids to bed to spend time with my husband. I would rather sacrifice my sleep to make love with my husband and lie in his arms for a few hours.

My sons will eventually grow up and become independent of me and my husband. He's my partner,my best friend, and my soulmate.

While we maintain a healthy relationship, we are capable of maintaing a steady and healthy foundation for our children TOGETHER as a team - a partnership. We are united - always.

And it WORKS!! When you make the time and effort to make your marriage a priority, every OTHER relationship within your family just falls into place.

This also doesn't mean we neglect our children AT ALL.

 

[mommyoftwo395]

My kids come 1st no matter what...Someday's I will not eat just so my kid's have enough food for them.  Childeren 1st parents 2nd...The sad part is I know too many people who put themselfs 1st and not there kid's...The kid's really pay the price...It's so sad to see... 

[AquarianPath]

Quoting mommasbabies77:

This is something I learned in my outpatient program at the hospital. It sounds good to that you put your children before yourself or even your partner for that matter. And, in the case of the last food on earth or they were standing in front of a moving train or something..I would sacrifice my life over my child's. As far as everyday life, I care for my children and see to their needs but I also and will continue to take care of myself and will do so every single day. For one reason, I want to remain healthy and I can't do that by always putting myself last. I want my children to grow up knowing how to take care of themselves and that it is okay to do so. It's not selfish for me to take time for myself and it's not selfish to treat myself to something nice just because I deserve it. And if someone wants to call it selfish, so be it..it's a very healthy selfish.

When you are on a plane, they tell you if they have to drop the oxygen masks to always always put yours on first before putting on your child's. Why? Because if you aren't breathing and healthy, you sure as heck cannot properly take care of your child. So yea, my kids are a big priority in my life but I am learning how to make myself one too.

GREAT ANSWER!!! And so true. this is my philosophy as well.

[ready_for2]

yes of course i do

[wicked_tink]

my kids are always first priority :) they are my world

[baby1love]

My girls will ALWAYS come first !!!!!!!!!!!!!!