i'm scared for me and my son's life right now.. any advice at all ?? please no bashing :( *edit*

[Mrszxcop3land]

ok, let me give you ladies a little background. my past was really shady. my ex, who was my BF for 4 years, was a high up there drug dealer. there were always times when we couldn't talk or anything for days, weeks, occasionally a month for my safety. very few of his friends knew about me for that reason. in the drug game, your friends are almost always going to turn on you so he only told the friends from before he was part of it.

well, one of his good friends turned on him, who knew what i meant to him. long story short, he tried to break us up so i mouthed off to him and kept pushing his buttons and he threatened to kill me. that was in february of 2007. not long after, he got sent to military school in new york.

he's out now and i heard he's coming back down here. idk what to do. i can't call the cops, i have no idea what the kid looks like. all this was done on myspace and he had no pictures. i can't ask my ex, he's in jail. i don't know where to go, for protection i guess you could say ?

he's 21 now, so i'm hoping he grew up or forgot about me. but if he didn't, i don't know if he'd threaten or even try to come after me, and if he finds out about my baby he might go after him since that's how these kids play. i know i made dumb decisions but please.. i'm really not looking to get bashed.. just what YOU would do in this situation..

i know it was stupid what i got myself into. and i'm not flattering myself.. me getting threatened isn't something i'm ever going to forget, i just hope he does. and yes, he knows what i look like and about where i live, he doesn't directly know my house though.

[OwensMama824]

I would just lay low and not talk to anyone that is friends with him 

[miss_nevin]

not bashing but would never put myself in that place, BUT lets say I did I would move.. go somewhere else sorry but I try to stay away from drama like that if he didnt know where to look for me he wouldnt be able to come find me...

[dreamerinluv]

Its no fun getting involved in the life of crime....I know you werent involved directly but just by living with a known dealer makes you a target....I really wish I had usefull advice....all I can say is I pray for you and your sons safety....God bless =( 

[Mrszxcop3land]

the only kid i still talk to that's linked with all this is my ex's little brother and only when he needs advice.. he's never stopped coming to me for whatever reason..

Quoting OwensMama824:

I would just lay low and not talk to anyone that is friends with him 

[carlinaiden]

LOL. Im sure you are long gone in his mind....

[carlinaiden]

plus if ytou dont know what he looks like, he doesnt know what you look like right? it was done on myspace for crying out loud! LOL

[jonesyj08]

If he went to Military school he might have grown up some. Then again, I wouldn't want to find out. Seriously, if he were to show up on your doorstep, you would probably know. Just don't answer the door for someone you don't know and you should be fine. If he does show up and doesn't get the hint when you don't let him in, call the cops and tell him there is a strange man on your porch that won't leave you alone. Anyways, that's what i would do.

[KokoJones]

i am hoping after being put in military school that he has changed and turned his life around.... all i can say is try not to stress.... and if he contacts you, take it to the cops *hug*

[OwensMama824]

Does this guy know where you live? If he asked would other people tell him? I think if the answer to those questions is no then you are pretty safe... just don't draw attention to yourself

Someone tried to kill my sister a few years ago. When he got out of jail..... she had moved 3 times and no one really knew where to find her.

Quoting Mrszxcop3land:

the only kid i still talk to that's linked with all this is my ex's little brother and only when he needs advice.. he's never stopped coming to me for whatever reason..

Quoting OwensMama824:

I would just lay low and not talk to anyone that is friends with him 

 

[Sagely]

 If he threatened you nearly 3 years ago, and you've had no further contact with him...my guess is you're not fresh on his mind.

Especially since you're no longer with your ex.

But if you feel in your gut that there's a threat...you'll have to move and lay low.  Make sure you have a security system and a way to defend yourself.