Is there anything that happened to you as a child you would consider abuse?
1) When I was 10 my step-mom made me fry hamburgers and I was crying because I was scared of the grease popping me and she hit my hand with the greasy, hot spatula and it burned my hand.
2) Anytime we would do bad in school or anything bad period my dad would whip us with a paddle with holes in it. I wasnt always good in school and one time I had 15 licks with the paddle coming to me. My dad would give me 4 licks then five seconds to breathe and then 4 more and so on. I could hardly catch my breath or sit down at school.
To me these are things I would never do to my kids!
Are there any instances that you think your parents were abusive?
I watched my dad beat my mom and siblings. He pulled a gun on my mom while I was sitting on the bed with my oldest DD. She was only a few months old. I could go on and on. When we were younger things like this was overlooked. It's sad really and I feel sorry for anyone that had to endure child abuse of any kind.
Yeah that would have been a hard thing to witness! A helpless feeling im sure!
I was basically neglected by my dad when my mom died. He decided he had to go to Bombay India to work for God know's what reason and he left me there with my grandmother and a grandfather that basically HATED me when I needed him the most. It may not have been abuse to some people, but I thought it was pretty messed up to go off and leave your kids right after a huge loss like that. And after he did come back, he moved me to Texas with him and his new girlfriend and they used to leave me at home alone by myself while they would go out and hang out in the bar all night, even make me watch other people's children while they went out with them. My mom would have NEVER allowed those things to happen.
He married my step-mom and she mentally and verbally abused me for YEARS..it would take a book to tell you about the things that I endured from her. She knew one of my step-brother's friends was raping me and she said and did nothing about it. I could go on and on.....
Did your parents know? I could not imagine being molested!
There is soooooo much I could say but I am gonna just hit the highlights.
When one of us 4 kids disobeyed we ALL got it.
IF somebody said a bad word we all got our mouth washed out with a sliver from soap on a rope from Avon and couldn't wash our mouths out for over 30 mins. It got so often we used to sneak water under our bed so we could rinse our mouths out and spit it out the window.
My dad would make us all 4 strip down in front of each other and he would whup us with his belt. I mean strip down to our undies and that was just humilitating to happen in front of boy girl siblings.
I grew up with a Lot of resentment and embarressement. I went to therapy when I got older and have forgiven my parents (mostly my dad did it). I also learned how to handle my anger and have Never disciplined my dd in anger like they did all the time.
My dad beat us until I was in middle school when one day my oldest brother finally stood up to him on all our behalfs. He said he was going to call the cops on my dad if he ever raised a hand to any of us again. I was so happy that ended the physical abuse. The yelling continued though.
Nothing bad happened until my mom and dad seperated and she started dating a 22yo (she was 28) and he punched me in the stomach as hard as he could..I couldn't breathe yet I was crying..which made it hurt worse...he locked me in a room and said I couldn't have dinner, he yelled at me ALL the time for nothing he just seemed to like yelling better than talking..he also told me I couldn't have dinner one time because I was late getting home from a friends house..even though her mom got lost and that's why I was late...and after he told me I couldn't have dinner, he proceeded to make me cook dinner for my sister and cousins...yeah wasn't that shitty?
Oh yeah and I was 10 when this all happened
After I moved to florida to be with my dad it all stopped..I learned about 3-4 years later that he was molesting my sister..nothing was ever done about it BTW...
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- mom2mel
on Nov. 25, 2009 at 12:06 AM