Help please!!!!!

[CamdensMom12]

My son is 10 1/2 months old, and he is so inconsistent when it comes to his sleeping! Whether it's night or day, he never has two days that are the same! Is this normal? I'm a first time Mom and I wanted to see if I'm the only one going through this! My son sits up as soon as I lay him in his crib and then stands up and cries until I come in and get him! He is napping sometimes as little as 1/2 hour a day and will still get up in the middle of the night for a bottle! Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do I try and let him cry it out for a few minutes(and I say few minutes cause that's all I could take) or is he getting to the point where i need to let him cry longer?

And I know he is teething, he just got his top two teeth, but he has always been like this!

[DaisyAg2003]

Talk to your ped, but I think it is okay to start letting him cry a little longer.

I used the cry it out method with all of mine and within 3 or 4 nights they were all going to sleep at the same time every night.

Now I get all 4 of them to sleep by 8!

Good luck!

[MommaJoP]

As long as there is nothing wrong....just let him cry it out....He needs to learn to put himself to sleep.  Same thing in the middle of the night...check on him...make sure he is ok...and then leave him be.  He's depending on you to get him to sleep, and he needs to learn to comfort himself.  Some moms will tell you this is mean....but the doctor will tell you that as long as nothing is wrong....let them cry.

[LennonT0609]

if it were me i would let him cry it out a little longer. But keep in mind longer than a half hour is neglect. Not that you would go that long, i know how it would kill you, I'm the same way. My friend's son was the same and at his 9 mos well check her doctor got stern with her and said it is time and that he needs a schedule he should NO LONGER be waking up in the middle of the night, its unhealthy for him. She actually told her to let him cry it out, that it would only take a couple months  Whatever you do just be stern and put your foot down.

The waking up for a bottle thing, my friends baby did that too and she was told that he is doing it out of habit not because he's hungry. She was told to find other ways to calm him back to sleep. But her doctor told her that because he was going back to sleep after drinking maybe a ounce or two. If your son is different then you may want to try feeding him right before he goes to bed so he doesn't feel so hungry in the middle of the night.

I'm probably going to get berated for encouraging you to let you child cry it out, but he's 10 mos not 4 and contrary to what they all believe there is no scientific evidence that crying out causes any sort of brain damage. It can cause anxiousness if gone on for too long, and detachment.Of course your going to be there and pick up your child as soon as you think its time. You know your baby best, you know his limits. but he has habits so formed that ,even your doctor will tell you, need to be broken.

[MixedCooke]

DO YOU HAVE A SET SCHEDULE? Same pattern of times that you do things for him as well as same routine.  Babies like schedules, routines and boundaries.  It helps them feel safe.

Maybe you can try Infant Orajel for the teething.  Try Vaseline on his nether regions to prevent any diaper rashes (just a tip).

Maybe the meal isnt keeping him full long enough, maybe try some cereal in his bottle (taboo but it does help).

Yes letting him cry it out a little will help him learn to self-soothe.