Mind your own business!! Argh. Did I overreact??

[lovinmykiddo07]

 So, I work at the same daycare that my 2 year old son, Eli, goes to. I was in the break room talking to a co-worker when another co-worker (lets call her D) came in. This woman, my goodness, is so nosey. I know she's probably lonely & new & just trying to make conversation but she'll ask you five million questions. Doesn't matter what your doing. You could be on the phone, reading a book, talking to a co-worker, whatever. She just butts right in.

So she asks my other co-worker (lets call her Marie) what rooms she had been in today. One of the rooms she listed is a room that my son is in. So D says, "Oh, how was Eli today?" I thought at first that she was trying to add me into the convo. so I just look at her & I'm like, "Uhh.. Idk, I haven't been in his room since I dropped him off." & she says, "No, I was talking to Marie. So how was he? Did he behave himself?"

My jaw dropped. Seriously woman? Confidentiality! Hello! Mind you, this woman (D) is not a regular staff in my son's room. She just does the afternoon breaks. Marie just kind of looked at me like, why is she asking me? and replied, "Idk, I was on the infant side." I was so upset with her I couldnt even say anything or else I probably would have exploded. If she wants to know about my child, I dont mind if she asks me. I'll tell her as much info as I think she may need. But DO NOT ask another co-worker, in the breakroom with other co-workers how my son's day was! I mean, what if he had a horrible day & Marie went into details or something?

So I brought it up to one of Eli's caregivers that I'm pretty good friends with. She said she thought it was really wierd & if she was in my situation she would take it to management. I was planning on doing that anyway, but I wanted someone else to assure me that I wasnt blowing this out of proportion. So I talked to the assistant director (the only one available) & just told her what happened and if she could please remind D that what goes on in the rooms does remain confidential & that she shouldnt be asking questions like that about people's children unless it directly concerns her.

So do you think I overreacted? Would you be wierded out too?

[mommibee]

I think you under-reacted.  This woman seems like she has some major issues.  She has already rubbed you the wrong way.  So her asking someone else about your son, in front of you, is asinine.  Does this woman have a mental problem?  I would not tell her anything you don't want everyone to know.  I have dealt with people like this before.  They will try and be your friend and then stab you in the back.  Jeesh, I think I just overreacted!  But I have been through a similar situation.  And it ended with that person getting fired for making up stories about everyone.  And they were not pleasant stories either.

[chelletell]

omg i would have blown up at her then demanded something be done and she stay away from my kid sorry thats just me  i would have so overreacted  but i agree wtih the first reply i think you undereacted but handleing it better then i would have

[lovinmykiddo07]

You know.. something about her has rubbed me wrong since day one. I'm not the only person who feels this way about her. But, I always try to be nice (not saying that you arent nice!). Thats why I didnt say anything directly to her, because as soon as she left the room I looked at Marie & exploded! Lol And like I said, I did talk to management about it & she said she would definatly talk to her. There's just something off about her. When she comes in for breaks its so hard to get her to leave! Its to the point where management is saying to call them if she wont leave. Mentally, I think something may be off. But they cant discriminate, ya know? Ugh.. I'm hoping she doesnt last too much longer. :( I know that sounds horrible but I just am at my breaking point with her.

Quoting mommibee:

I think you under-reacted.  This woman seems like she has some major issues.  She has already rubbed you the wrong way.  So her asking someone else about your son, in front of you, is asinine.  Does this woman have a mental problem?  I would not tell her anything you don't want everyone to know.  I have dealt with people like this before.  They will try and be your friend and then stab you in the back.  Jeesh, I think I just overreacted!  But I have been through a similar situation.  And it ended with that person getting fired for making up stories about everyone.  And they were not pleasant stories either.

[mommibee]

Go with your instincts....It seems you aren't the only one that has notice her crude behavior.  Maybe she needs to be put on meds or something.  I don't think she will last too long with that kind of behavior.  Hang in there.

Quoting lovinmykiddo07:

You know.. something about her has rubbed me wrong since day one. I'm not the only person who feels this way about her. But, I always try to be nice (not saying that you arent nice!). Thats why I didnt say anything directly to her, because as soon as she left the room I looked at Marie & exploded! Lol And like I said, I did talk to management about it & she said she would definatly talk to her. There's just something off about her. When she comes in for breaks its so hard to get her to leave! Its to the point where management is saying to call them if she wont leave. Mentally, I think something may be off. But they cant discriminate, ya know? Ugh.. I'm hoping she doesnt last too much longer. :( I know that sounds horrible but I just am at my breaking point with her.

Quoting mommibee:

I think you under-reacted.  This woman seems like she has some major issues.  She has already rubbed you the wrong way.  So her asking someone else about your son, in front of you, is asinine.  Does this woman have a mental problem?  I would not tell her anything you don't want everyone to know.  I have dealt with people like this before.  They will try and be your friend and then stab you in the back.  Jeesh, I think I just overreacted!  But I have been through a similar situation.  And it ended with that person getting fired for making up stories about everyone.  And they were not pleasant stories either.

[lovinmykiddo07]

By a thread.. lol

Quoting mommibee:

Go with your instincts....It seems you aren't the only one that has notice her crude behavior.  Maybe she needs to be put on meds or something.  I don't think she will last too long with that kind of behavior.  Hang in there.

Quoting lovinmykiddo07:

You know.. something about her has rubbed me wrong since day one. I'm not the only person who feels this way about her. But, I always try to be nice (not saying that you arent nice!). Thats why I didnt say anything directly to her, because as soon as she left the room I looked at Marie & exploded! Lol And like I said, I did talk to management about it & she said she would definatly talk to her. There's just something off about her. When she comes in for breaks its so hard to get her to leave! Its to the point where management is saying to call them if she wont leave. Mentally, I think something may be off. But they cant discriminate, ya know? Ugh.. I'm hoping she doesnt last too much longer. :( I know that sounds horrible but I just am at my breaking point with her.

Quoting mommibee:

I think you under-reacted.  This woman seems like she has some major issues.  She has already rubbed you the wrong way.  So her asking someone else about your son, in front of you, is asinine.  Does this woman have a mental problem?  I would not tell her anything you don't want everyone to know.  I have dealt with people like this before.  They will try and be your friend and then stab you in the back.  Jeesh, I think I just overreacted!  But I have been through a similar situation.  And it ended with that person getting fired for making up stories about everyone.  And they were not pleasant stories either.

[mistyray]

I would have seen that she got writen up for that. My ? is, is she talking about the kids to other people out side of the day care and using there names?

[lovinmykiddo07]

Quoting mistyray:

I would have seen that she got writen up for that. My ? is, is she talking about the kids to other people out side of the day care and using there names?

EXACTLY! I'm pretty sure she'll get written up, because thats a big no-no. When she first started she used to try to start up a conversation with me in the break room or lobby about the children in my classroom & I've brought it to the attention of my supervisor before. So management def. knows that she's breaking that confidentiality.