DNC...... am I being Irrational????? Update at reply #18...

[apeclark2008]

Ok ladies as some of u know I went to the doctors last week and they said my Baby didn't have a heartbeat... They estimated that I was 7-8 wks along... I was considering getting a DNC if when i get a U/S of Friday.... BUT Im Terrified that if I do that and They baby just wasn't positioned right or Im not as far along as they think I am I might be aborting my baby... Should I cancel the U/S and DNC and just wait a couple weeks and see what happens??? I know for sure in a couple weeks they will be able to tell if the baby has grow at all and so on and so forth!!!!

Please help me here...

My SO said its my Decision... He wants me to do what I think I can handle and maybe Im being Irrational but IM just scared....

I really need to know what u ladies thing... I know Its up to me but I need some help please!!!!

[Avabliss]

hmm.  I would wait or get 2, maybe 3 or 4, opinons before.

Im so sorry you have to go through this!!! 

[outerbanxmom]

It won't hurt a thing to wait...if the baby truly is gone, you'll just miscarry on your own.  I've been through this five times, and believe me, no fear is an irrational one when it comes to a pregnancy.  Do what you feel is right and don't let anyone pressure you.  Take care and be strong.

[matswife2023]

I went through this a few months ago.  I held out for 3 weeks until finally the doctor said that I had blood clots behind the sac.

[ready_for2]

it if were me i would want to miscarry naturally at home so that i could bury my baby :(

if you have it done at the hospital, they wont let you take it with you. they will keep it and use it for whatever testing and other things that they want and then just throw it away...

[apeclark2008]

This one might be my third one... I hope not but If it is it will be and this is the only one Ive even considered a DNC... I think thats maybe WHY im so freaked out... IDK...

Quoting outerbanxmom:

It won't hurt a thing to wait...if the baby truly is gone, you'll just miscarry on your own.  I've been through this five times, and believe me, no fear is an irrational one when it comes to a pregnancy.  Do what you feel is right and don't let anyone pressure you.  Take care and be strong.

[2BoysSoFar]

Oh, I'm so sorry you have to go through this - hugs to you.
I would think that if you had the U/S first, they will definitely be able to tell you what's going on in there and give you a clear answer.

[apeclark2008]

Ive never done it at the hospital or the Doctors office but Ive never been able to look at my babies... EVER... My mom takes care of it... I still haven't and probably NEVER will ask her where she buried them... It hurts to much.. The only one I know where he is buried is my DS and he wasn't taken naturally... My EX took him from me... I never got to see him either... I could if I wanted to from the police photos but 6yrs later IM still not ready... Maybe that Irrational too... IDK...

Quoting ready_for2:

it if were me i would want to miscarry naturally at home so that i could bury my baby :(

if you have it done at the hospital, they wont let you take it with you. they will keep it and use it for whatever testing and other things that they want and then just throw it away...

[MaeHamMomma]

I am sorry. IDK what I woul do, I lost my baby much later and it was clear that he was gone.

hugs 

[happytexasCM]

I would not do it based on a 7-8 week ultra sound; fetuses grow at different rates and that is too early to be accurate.  I would not even schedule anything until after a 10 week ultrasound.

[ready_for2]

oh wow mama im so sorry ((((( )))))) i guess i really dont know what to say i have never experienced anything like that and i cant imagine how it would be so i am completely at a loss..... i hope everything works out for you and hopefully they just missed the heartbeat somehow...

Quoting apeclark2008:

Ive never done it at the hospital or the Doctors office but Ive never been able to look at my babies... EVER... My mom takes care of it... I still haven't and probably NEVER will ask her where she buried them... It hurts to much.. The only one I know where he is buried is my DS and he wasn't taken naturally... My EX took him from me... I never got to see him either... I could if I wanted to from the police photos but 6yrs later IM still not ready... Maybe that Irrational too... IDK...

Quoting ready_for2:

it if were me i would want to miscarry naturally at home so that i could bury my baby :(

if you have it done at the hospital, they wont let you take it with you. they will keep it and use it for whatever testing and other things that they want and then just throw it away...