Proud Working Mamas

[A_Renee]

How many working mamas are out there?  I see posts about being SAHMs, but where is the love for the working mamas? 

I work full time, always have..put myself through college while working full time.  My DH and I work hard to provide for our family.  It hard but I think that I am setting an example to my children, especially since I have girls...I am trying to teach them to be strong independent women...go-getters; in business and in life in general....I am not downing SAHMs at all, I could never stay at home....that's a hard job, but mine is hard as well, but I would not have it any other way...

So working moms, how do you feel about working outside the home?  Do you work because you have to or because you want to?  What examples for your children do you think that you are setting by being outside the home?  Do you think that daycare is raising your kids?  I certainly don't, but I know that a lot of people feel that way..

Working mamas rock!

[MixedCooke]

I work at night and take care of my daughter during the day.  I make money, provide for my family, they are on my medical insurance and I have not missed a single moment in my daughter's life.  I still maintain the household, cook dinner, etc.  Do I get much sleep? No, but as long as my family is taken care of and we are not struggling financially, it does not bother me!  I worked until the very day my water broke with my last pregnancy and I plan on doing the same with this one!

Working is my escape from Elmo!  LOL  I work because I want to, because I would get cabin fever if I stayed home.  I am teaching my daughter she can do it all if she wanted to and to never have to depend on a man unless you choose to.

[FL2AK]

I am a very proud working mom.  I work because I love what I do and I get so much satisfaction from it.  I have always worked because I wanted to, not because I had to.  I just found out today that I have been hired as a part time adjunct professor and will be teaching psychology one night a week starting next semester.  Teaching will be more of a hobby in addition to my full time career.  

I think I am a better wife and mother because I have a family who supports me 100%. I do not have to give up my dreams.  Personally I think I set a great example for my children.  I am showing them that hard work and determination do pay off. 

I have never felt that daycare has raised my children.  I stayed at home for 18 months with each of my children.  When I was ready I went back to work and they went to wonderful daycares and preschools.  They certainly have never felt neglected in any way.

[austynsmama]

I also work at night to take care of my girls during the day. 3 12 hour shifts a week. Personally I felt like they were at the sitter a little to much for me, I felt like I was missing out on so much. But I do not judge others and think that daycare is raising their children, I am just greedy with the time I have with my children, partially because my job is with sick and dying children I see how any given breath can be their last and I don't want to miss more than I have to. But before I started at children's hospital I had a mon-fri 9-5 job and never had the thought that someone else was raising my children, that is just crazy!

[kelleygirl76]

Quoting A_Renee:

How many working mamas are out there?  I see posts about being SAHMs, but where is the love for the working mamas? 

I work full time, always have..put myself through college while working full time.  My DH and I work hard to provide for our family.  It hard but I think that I am setting an example to my children, especially since I have girls...I am trying to teach them to be strong independent women...go-getters; in business and in life in general....I am not downing SAHMs at all, I could never stay at home....that's a hard job, but mine is hard as well, but I would not have it any other way...

So working moms, how do you feel about working outside the home?

I'm not overjoyed by it.....but it's work.

  Do you work because you have to or because you want to? 

Neither, really.  I don't "have" to and I don't "want" to.  But I "need" to.  KWIM?  My salary means that we can retire W/O worrying about SS (which won't be there) and we'll be able to pay for my son to go to college.

What examples for your children do you think that you are setting by being outside the home?

I hope that we instill in him a value for working hard and excelling, so he can have whatever he wants as an adult.

  Do you think that daycare is raising your kids? 

No.  NO.  1000 times NO!  I raise my son.

I certainly don't, but I know that a lot of people feel that way..

Working mamas rock!

[Se7enTh1rt3en]

I work PT in the Kid Zone at Gold's Gym, and though the pay is crap, I get a free membership AND I get to bring my kids with me to work.  Come April, I will be taking classes to become a certified personal trainer - I'll still be getting the free membership and the chance to take my kids with me to work (even though I won't be in the Kid Zone with them anymore, I can always pop in in between clients to see them), but I'll get to make my own schedule AND I'll be making, like, 4x as much as I'm making now!  So yeah, I'm a proud working mom!

[FooLynRoo]

I have always claimed I would love to be a sahm, however I've never had the opportunity to test that theory.

I have worked since I was 14, supporting myself for the most part, and I just don't know any other way. Of course its easier now that i have my husband, but we have a better lifestyle now than we use to as well.

When my son was young, I did work a 3rd shift job which allowed us to raise our son without having to use daycare, but if I had to, I would have. We did use after school care for him when he was school age without regret.

If i were to have another child right now, that child would be in daycare.

 

Simply not working is not an option for us. And while yes I believe a good example for my son is imperative, it isn't my main goal, i've always taught my son the value of a dollar.

[A_Renee]

[runner-mom]

two part time jobs and going to college full time here!

It's hard but I know it will be worth it in the long run. My kids stay home with DH during the day, then when I get home DH goes to work.  So, we are still raising them, not daycare (they've never been to daycare)  If daycare came into the picture , we would reevaluate.  I really would rather they are with their parents. 

I have nothing but utmost respect for SAHM's.  I don't think I could do it.  I love my babies to pieces but I go stir crazy being in the house for too long.  Our plan is for me to have the career once I graduate, and DH will be a SAHD. 

[A_Renee]

A SAHD, my DH could never do it....he would get too stir crazy....I would too..

both of my girls went/go to daycare.  I do not think at all that daycare is raising them.  I am...they follow my direction, regardless of where they are...especially my oldest, since she is 7 , try and tell her something different, and she will be like, "no, my mama said...."  the baby is only 14 months old so she does know anything, but she knows mama and daddy....and I have no doubt that she will be the same way as my other daughter...

I really don;t mind them going to daycare (when ODD went, now afterschool care)...it gives them a chance to be around other children, play burn off some energy....They both went/go to non-traditional daycares....ODD went to a house daycare until she was 5, I loved the woman, she ran a daycare out of her home and had other kids....the baby went there for a while now goes to a church datcare where she is the only baby, so I love it...they spoil her rotten (hate that part) but she knows when mama gets there...

 

Quoting runner-mom:

two part time jobs and going to college full time here!

It's hard but I know it will be worth it in the long run. My kids stay home with DH during the day, then when I get home DH goes to work.  So, we are still raising them, not daycare (they've never been to daycare)  If daycare came into the picture , we would reevaluate.  I really would rather they are with their parents. 

I have nothing but utmost respect for SAHM's.  I don't think I could do it.  I love my babies to pieces but I go stir crazy being in the house for too long.  Our plan is for me to have the career once I graduate, and DH will be a SAHD. 

[luv2wahm]

Quoting A_Renee:

How many working mamas are out there?  I see posts about being SAHMs, but where is the love for the working mamas? 

I work full time, always have..put myself through college while working full time.  My DH and I work hard to provide for our family.  It hard but I think that I am setting an example to my children, especially since I have girls...I am trying to teach them to be strong independent women...go-getters; in business and in life in general....I am not downing SAHMs at all, I could never stay at home....that's a hard job, but mine is hard as well, but I would not have it any other way...

So working moms, how do you feel about working outside the home? I believe it is just a fact of life. If you need the extra money, or if working is something you enjoy you should do it. There is nothing wrong with work.

Do you work because you have to or because you want to?  I was a SAHM for 9 years, but during that time, I babysat, had a direct sales business, and volunteered at a private school on their board of directors. I always knew one day I would re enter the work force. But while I was home, I wanted to contribute something to the family budget. I now work full time outside of the home, the girls are in school during the day and DH and I are focused on our future and retirement. We do not want to have to work until we are 70 and 80.  Our goal is to be retired/semi retired (meaning working part time only) by the time we are 60...I say semi retired because I don't know if my husband could ever fully retire..he has way too much energy.

What examples for your children do you think that you are setting by being outside the home? I have always taught my kids about personal responsibility and not to be afraid of work. I, too, have girls and I want them to be able to live the life they want to live. I want them to have goals and aspirations. I want them to be self sufficient and strong. 

Do you think that daycare is raising your kids?  I have to admit my girls never did go to daycare. Last year my youngest(then 5) went across the street to a babysitter who was amazing. Plus, DH and I many time work opposite shifts, last summer the girls would go to the neighbors maybe 8 hours a week. However, I do not feel as if daycares raise anyone's children. I certainly don't, but I know that a lot of people feel that way..

Working mamas rock!