How can you be with someone who's family doesn't like you or vice versa?
My MIL likes me just fine, especially when I am giving her drug addicted ass money (which is never), I cant stand her and my DH understands just fine. He cant hardly stand her either so it has not come between us at all but it was hard for him to make the decision that our children would never spend then night at her house and if she wanted to see them she has to come to our house. But I think there is much more of a story here than what you may be talking about....
My husband understands but it does cause problems for us and fighting because she's a fake and he buys into her bull. I'm pretty honest and I can't pretend to like somebody I hate even if it is to please dh. At the beginning of our relationship it really did feel like us against the world. My parents didn't like him (they do now) his hated me and still do, he couldn't live with me in Canada and I couldn't live with him in USA . It just felt like everybody wanted us apart and it made us more determined to be together. Love conquers all. Otherwise we'd have given up a long time ago.
I have no idea. My family can't stand my brother's wife. No one can believe he married her. You'd have to know her to understand why we feel this way. But we all got over our opinions, so we can still see my brother because we love him. I don't mind his wife as much anymore, she has matured a lot, but she still does things that make me want to punch her sometimes. She still acts like she's 15 sometimes, she's VERY VERY selfish, and she's also HIGHLY jealous, among many other things. I guess for me, it's that I can't relate to any of that behavior, and it's really annoying to me, and I wouldn't want to be with someone like that, so it's hard for me to understand why my brother would want to either, KWIM? But I accept her for the most part because of my brother. He does a damn good job running interference because he never makes anyone feel like the bad person, he just points out why everyone was wrong and that he hopes they can fix it. I will say, he has much more patience than I.
FIL hates me. I dont know why but whatever. Me and dh ahve been together 4 years married for 2. Anywyas for the past few years it has been really rough and the only thing we fought about was his stupid dad and now dead stepmom. Anyways a few months back i gave dh an ultimatum. Me or his dad. I explained that the stres sof the BS was puttign a strain and his dad treated him and our kids poorly. Anyways dh no longer speaks to his dad and we have been happy ever since.
I wanted to add that even though FIL is a dick I tried to get him to see my kids. Even tried to ask him why he hated me and nothign worked. He has 23 grandkids and a step randkid. We have the only grandkids oin the state. Sadly FIL does not see the kids ata ll, doesn't even have pics up. I am not sure what to tell kids when they are older but hopefully he will be dead by then.
Quoting MsDean:I wanted to add that even though FIL is a dick I tried to get him to see my kids. Even tried to ask him why he hated me and nothign worked. He has 23 grandkids and a step randkid. We have the only grandkids oin the state. Sadly FIL does not see the kids ata ll, doesn't even have pics up. I am not sure what to tell kids when they are older but hopefully he will be dead by then.
because you are marrying the man and not his family. Personally though, I dont think I could marry someone if his Mom didnt like me.
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on Nov. 25, 2009 at 2:36 AM