I need advice on something concerning my ex hubby. Our daughter lives with him (by her choice) and everytime she tells him she wants to move back in with me he seems to try and guilt her into staying. Once he told her that if she moved back in with me he was moving out of state and wouldnt see her for a long time..she ended up staying..this most recent time she said she wanted to come back home he told her he would get rid of her dog (he knows i cant have pets where i live) and now shes torn between living with me and her siblings (not his kids btw) or staying there with him and her dog. The thing is from what she tells me he is rarely around or spends time with her (always at his new gf's) leaving her with his family (that he lives with). I've flat out asked his family if he spends time with her and am told he does but yet she tells me something different. I honestly believe her. So i dont get why he would try and guilt her into staying if he doesnt even spend time with her....any advice?
He would try to guilt her because if she moved in with you in his mind she would be "choosing you over him".
And because hes an immature douche.
I would speak up. Tell your daughter that the choice is hers and that he shouldnt make her feel bad about what she chooses.
How old is she BTW??
Tell him hes making it hard on her to do what she wants to do and he needs to lay off and stop using her emotions against her.
If her own father does this what is he teaching her about relationships with men in the future?? That they can manipulate her into doing things she isn't comfortable with?
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I think before saying anything, you should step back and fully asses the situation. How old is your DD? Does she have any other reasons for not wanting to be there? Maybe you should talk to him about it all, and see what he has to say about everything. Or better yet maybe its just time for a "family" meeting.
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What an ass he's being, to use his own daghter's feelings against her. What he's doing is going to seriously affect her in the long run.
Quoting Tia_B:
He would try to guilt her because if she moved in with you in his mind she would be "choosing you over him".
And because hes an immature douche.
I would speak up. Tell your daughter that the choice is hers and that he shouldnt make her feel bad about what she chooses.
How old is she BTW??
Tell him hes making it hard on her to do what she wants to do and he needs to lay off and stop using her emotions against her.
If her own father does this what is he teaching her about relationships with men in the future?? That they can manipulate her into doing things she isn't comfortable with?
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- WAmomof4
on Nov. 25, 2009 at 4:15 AM