Just got a text from my hubby. He just asked his dad when they were having Turkey day dinner, since they always switch their times. My family always has T-day dinner at 1pm. Without fail. Last year, he decided that they were doing their's at 1:30 and this year, at 1pm! So, hubby says we'll have to seperate. No. No way. Not gonna happen. I want to spend my holiday with my husband! This sucks. :(
Sounds way too firmiliar and i too absolutely hate this feeling. My hubbys dads girlfriend who no one likes always seems to plan it at the most terrible times. we seem to think its so when we dont go, we look bad. Too bad...were not going and that was my hubbys choice. we will be spending thanksgiving with my family and that is how my husband wants it.
I wish we could do that. Our house is sooo tiny. There's no room for a bunch of family here. Hell, there's barely room for the three of us as it is! But, I'm so not going to have Thanksgiving without my husband. Hell to the no. We're just going to figure something out. Either my family will have to wait to see us or his family will have to wait to see us. That's just all there is to it.
Quoting chair.r13:
We always pick one branch of family per holiday and that is that. I'm not gonna wear myself out or drive myself crazy or be without hubby for anyone's sake. It helps that every year at least one holiday is at our house.
My family has been the ones there for us, through everything. The ones who helped with our wedding, my mom is our babysitter, my grandparents occassionally pick my son up from daycare (usually just 'cause they wanna, lol) they're the ones that are just so much closer to us. Geographically and emotionally. DH's family is scattered everywhere. I asked DH why it was at one this year, and apparently, everyone else has somewhere to be after that. Well, great for them. I'm NOT missing my nanna's pinapple glazed ham and that's the end of discussion. PLUS, my mom's alone for the holidays. Again. No way am I not showing up for a holiday with her, OR making her have thanksgiving with her parents by herself. Her sister hasn't bothered to walk down the street for holidays in years. My son is the only man in her life right now (but I want her to find a bf, hardcore) and I don't want him not to be there for her. You know?
Quoting wifeffd95c:
Sounds way too firmiliar and i too absolutely hate this feeling. My hubbys dads girlfriend who no one likes always seems to plan it at the most terrible times. we seem to think its so when we dont go, we look bad. Too bad...were not going and that was my hubbys choice. we will be spending thanksgiving with my family and that is how my husband wants it.
Can you do dinner at one place and dessert and the other? That is what we normally do. This year we are going to have 2 dinners because my DH's mom is eating at 1 and my parents aren't eating until 4. So it will all work out.
We always alternate which family gets first choice. His family gets first choice of date/time on the odd years, and mine gets first choice on the even years.
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- lyranightshade
on Nov. 25, 2009 at 11:43 AM