For the last couple days my SO has been a butt. He quit smoking a couple weeks ago which I am happy about. However, trying to cope with his moods is not an easy thing to do. I am trying to be calm, cool, and collective. But this week he has just been making snide remarks to me for no reason and I don't like it. And then today I had his 7 year old niece.. and I had to leave for therapy at 2:30 so she stayed with him and her little sister was here too by the time I got home. (She is 2). That was fine, what was not fine was him not watching the 2 year old. I am in a wheelchair and can't chase the kid around. And she would not listen to me for nothing - while he lay on the couch and slept! It's all just frustrating. I don't know how hard it is to quit smoking because I've never smoked. But I do know that you can somewhat control your emotions in such a time. He made a comment yesterday about having to take me to physical therapy and said I was wasting his gas. Things like that get on my nerves whether he means them or not. When we got in the truck to go, I asked him why he was being that way to me cause I had done nothing to him and his answer was I don't know. So, yeah whatever.. I guess!
**We have been together for 3 1/2 years**
I guess what I am saying in all of this is: How can I support his choice to quit smoking and deal with hisw mood changes without us going at it or being mad all the time?
~*Crystal*~
I DO SMOKE && HAVE QUIT BEFORE SO I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS. AND YES, FOR HIM ITS FRUSTRATING TOO!! BUT THAT IS NO REASON FOR HIM TO BE LASHING OUT AT YOU. YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO SUPPORT HIM..BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO ALLOW HIM TO TREAT YOU POORLY. YOU DIDNT MAKE HIM START/STOP SMOKING. BUT I DONT TAKE B.S FROM ANYONE, SO ID SAY SOMETHIN QUICK!! YOU JUST NEED TO TALK TO HIM..MAYBE HE DOESNT NOTICE HES TREATIN YOU BAD BECAUSE HES IN A BAD MOOD? GOOD LUCK MOMMA
sounds like he could be pregnant...
jk i have no idea so heres a bump for ya :)
Quoting Zawifey:
sounds like he could be pregnant...
jk i have no idea so heres a bump for ya :)
lol @ the pregnancy thing.
i really have no idea, other than sit down adn talk with him. he might not really realize how its affecting you, but make sure that you keep an open mind to how its affecting him as well.
other than that, all i got left is a bump for ya
my hubs quit and now uses those vapor cigs... e cigs, whatever you want to call them... he has slowly weened himself off the nicotine and is now solely on flavored vapor, it is more the action of smoking he is addicted to... i have noticed it has helped a LOT with his moods.... the last time he tried to quit on his own it wasn't pretty
Koko- navy wife-mommy of two- currently baking baby #3
Quoting PrOuD_fL_MoMmY:
I DO SMOKE && HAVE QUIT BEFORE SO I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS. AND YES, FOR HIM ITS FRUSTRATING TOO!! BUT THAT IS NO REASON FOR HIM TO BE LASHING OUT AT YOU. YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO SUPPORT HIM..BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO ALLOW HIM TO TREAT YOU POORLY. YOU DIDNT MAKE HIM START/STOP SMOKING. BUT I DONT TAKE B.S FROM ANYONE, SO ID SAY SOMETHIN QUICK!! YOU JUST NEED TO TALK TO HIM..MAYBE HE DOESNT NOTICE HES TREATIN YOU BAD BECAUSE HES IN A BAD MOOD? GOOD LUCK MOMMA
Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it and will probably put it to use in the next couple days. :)
~*Crystal*~
Quoting KokoJones:
my hubs quit and now uses those vapor cigs... e cigs, whatever you want to call them... he has slowly weened himself off the nicotine and is now solely on flavored vapor, it is more the action of smoking he is addicted to... i have noticed it has helped a LOT with his moods.... the last time he tried to quit on his own it wasn't pretty
Good suggestion maybe my SO should try them.
~*Crystal*~
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on Nov. 25, 2009 at 7:02 PM